Girl I like

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This girl I like is a co-worker in a different building. She is cute, very compassionate, and seems like a good person. I would like to get to know her more and ask her out but one problem. She has a boyfriend who happens to by my boss's son. He cheated on her and she wants to leave him but is afraid to hurt him.
I understand this all spells bad things but I am just curious if anyone has an opinion of what I should do for both sides of the argument. Like if I were to pursue this.

If she has a boyfriend, DON'T PURSUE HER.

If she breaks up with the guy, go all speed ahead!

give up.

Do this...Talk to her, be there for her, be concerned. Ask how she's doing, but don't try to push her away from him. Just make remarks, such as "I hate that you have to put up with that." Do that, but at the same time do not limit yourself to talking to other women. This'll workout in 1 of three ways. 1. The most likely scenario is that she'll just stay with him and get put up with being abused, 2. She'll leave him but it'll take her awhile and you'll get with her if you play your cards right, or 3. She'll leave him and say she doesn't want to date for awhile and then windup goign with some other guy and you feel crushed. So, why talk to her anyway? Well, see you have nothing to loose and a lot to gain, the trick is not to give her all your time. Don't waste time on her, meaning don't go out and buy her gifts or try to hangout with her; talk to her at work and if SHE asks to hangout with you do it. Just don't ask her.

The sad truth is, 99% of the times girls have boyfriends and aren't single for long. If he doesn't at least stay close friends with her, he won't have a shot. While she's in an abusive relationship and she sees how nice he is SHE might consider dating him and leaving the other guy. If he distances himself, she might think he's not interested in her.