Online dating is hopeless.

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Hello. Been using OKCupid and Plentyoffish for awhile, met a lot of girls, most results either:

a) End up with "You're not my type."
b) She's either taken or wanting to redate her previous boyfriend or some other variant.
c) Distance.
d) Etc.

Those are the good profiles. The bad profiles are the worst cases of subliteracy ever.

I'm on OKCupid and I've seen a lot of nice guys but I can't bring myself to actually e-mail them back when they like me. Probably the commitment of an ongoing social exchange...either that or I can't focus enough to actually write the g-d message.

Actually contacting them isn't difficult for me; I'm a lot less shy online. It's just another case of girls that interest me being unattainable, and the rest being horridly subpar.

I went on one date wth one woman I met on Plentyoffish, but that's as far as it went.

The rest of the profiles I came across consisted of people who were extremely shallow, and would only date people who were a certain body type, or who made a certain amount of money.

This is why I will probably be limiting myself to other Aspies for a while.

Tim

That's absolutely rude. You should either specify in your profile that you aren't there to meet anyone or just take down your profile.

Good timing for this thread. I've got a date tonight thanks to Plentyoffish.com

No, that's me trying to work on my social skills as best I can. Also, there is no obligation to write ANYONE. If others on the site are not interested in someone, they ignore them. Do they need to write a disclaimer saying they won't write back? Don't be such a dick.

For autistic people be successful with dating, it takes a tag team of (i) speech thearpist and (ii) psychologist. In the right circumstances, they will teach you the skills required to deal with your problems. It also requires you to accept that you will fail a lot but significant progress can be made over time.

You have to working IT-heavy type jobl to make the kind of bank required to afford these people. But if you make about $45000-$65000. these people with insurance are affordable but it requires a financial sacrifice. It takes lots of research and networking. but these people are out there, believe me.

If you cannot afford these service, go to the state and the county and start putting pressure on your department of social services to give you help that you

I'm a 20-year computer science major, still in college, no luck finding any part-time jobs. So it's not a matter of social services or welfare or any other item in my case; it's more one of stumbing by trial and error and hoping it doesn't become called out as sexual harassment. Or something along those lines.

I've been with MS for four years ago. We met on Match.com. It worked beautifully, but I'd been using it for a while. Finally figured out the right way to go about it, I guess, combined with just serendipity that he and I were on the site at the same time. IMO online is the way to go for aspies. You can can take your time, email, etc., before meeting.

hehehe i was curious abt this OKCupid since i heard a lot abt it ....i made little search :

I found above 100 profiles in my country (i am straight tho but i was curious how many members from lebanon there )

and there s only 9 girls profiles (age range 18-29 loool ).... 2 of them are very beautiful that i am certain that they have a bf already and one of them is wearing in a sluty way lol there 's plenty of no-photo proflis tho but they seem all inactive

no chance for me in this site!

Yeah. I'm just scared of anyone who might make the connection with so little information. I mean, I can't approach/allow someone to approach me IRL, because of this; how am I going to view someone (or myself) who makes any motion without anything more than a couple of pictures? Course, I kind of tailored my profile to drive people away too....

But you only need one woman, right?

You're missing the point. In order to find a good one, you have to meet a lot of the wrong ones. They know that too. Hooking up is not a commitment or any kind of statement that they know all about you, it's just that they are interested in what they see and want to know more. You have to meet them before you dismiss them. You don't need to like them before you meet them.



Well there you go.

Not I.



But, something seems so WRONG about the idea of judging someone on so little. Wrong in the sense that I'm not sure that I could deal with the kind of person who is capable of doing it.



I was getting IM requests, and they really bugged me. It's actually the only reason that I put up a profile at all. But, after I did it, I started to wonder if all those quizzes might do some good, and looked at matching results. Couldn't find anyone who combines love and hate the way that I do. s**t, I miss my wife.

Last edited by calandale on 14 Apr 2007, 8:44 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Why Is it rude?