Online dating success stories

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There seems to be a divide on here about how useful online dating is. I was wondering if those who've had success would mind sharing what worked for them and what was it about the person who contacted you that made you want to start talking to them more and eventually meet them?

Well, since you're a gal you would be the "Natural selection" there - you will receive hordes of messages and you start eliminating them for whatever reason.

It will be like : Next next next next next next next ...hmm maybe, next next next next...

No one can tell you what can make you want to meet them but all I can tell you that you will have infinite of options.

The following is a true account of my friends success stories on internet dating:

So I first tried eharmony and pof but found their set outs really annoying.

The I tried okcupid. For a while I struggled but I did a lot of research and improved my profile to the point when I had to delete it I was really sad because of the hard work I put into it.

It was one of those things where you have to answer new questions regularly to make sure you show up near the top of people's matches and also increase the % match to people.

Even then it took me a year because none of the people I talked too I clicked with. It wasn't till my now boyfriend joined the site I met up with someone (he had only been on there for a month). I'm usually not very good at keeping conversations going but with him it was natural. The only annoying thing was in his picture you couldn't see his face that well.

The first date was really akward as I didn't know what to say or do. I even spilt drink down myself luckily he didn't mind my weirdness and said he actually loved it

Now 2 and a half years later we are of to Venice amd I have a feeling he's going to take things further


Also a lot of people who have had success with online dating probably wouldnt come on this section because they don't have as many l&d topics

I can ask my best friend. She's been with her current boyfriend for about a year, and they met online. They're very happy together and work well. He's actually one of the mature types (behavior, not age, he's only 4 years older) that wants to talk through their problems and actually looks for issues in their relationship so they can fix them before they get overwhelming. Very communicative, intelligent (genius level IQ, is an engineer and is working on his pHD in astrophysics just because he can), attractive, and very sociable.

His only "downsides" that I've seen are that he's short (5'3", although I don't see that as a downside personally, but I know a lot of people do) and he is NT so thinks it's funny to say outlandish things, have her believe him, and then be like "I can't believe you believed that!" (That is a downside to me because that s**t pisses me off personally). Part of the reason he stayed single for so long is also because of discrimination. He's from India, and he's very dark skinned. Unfortunately people discriminate quite a lot against non white people on dating websites (I say this as someone who's gone on dates with a number of non white men from my area, often they aren't given a chance because of that).

You will have to deal with a lot of annoying people though lol. That I can tell you from my experience and from speaking to my friend. For every 1 decent person I talked to it felt like there was like 20 people who had the personality of a flip flop.

I don't see any 'divide' here.

It seems the majority here believe online dating is pointless (typically men) and a small collection (typically women) have found some sort of success with it and try to push it on the men arguing it can work when it working for a man is a staistical anomaly.

Sure, for every woman that ends up with a man, a man ends up with a woman, but the women here are only telling their side of the story.

Typically, they say something like they were using online dating for 1-2 years, did not receive hordes of messages (but at least recieved some, and some is more than none, which is what men typically receive, and even if 7/10 messages the woman receives are low-quality, e.g. perverted or generic, there's still at least 3 decent guy's in there, also more than a man could ever hope for) but what we rarely here is what the man had to go through.

Typically despite women also having difficulty with online dating, which I am not denying, the men had more difficulty.

I remember Alliekit mentioning she was using online dating for a year and sometimes messaging a guy she;'s interested in,r before she met her boyfriend, but he was using online dating for about 2 years and messaging vast amounts of women.

This means he had to put in TWICE the amount of effort, and found online dating TWICE as hard.

Even then I'd say a male is lucky if he finds online dating twice as hard as women, a more realistic figure would be 3-5 times harder, as I've seen some male users here in the past claim to message hundreds, if not thousands of women in the span f 5-10 years and not find any success from it.

I lost my former housemate because he moved out to live with a girl he met on POF. They're still together over a year later and talking of marriage now so I guess that counts as a success story.
He told me at the beginning he wasn't physically attracted to her because she's a bigger girl (but still quite beautiful). He dated other girls but came back to the first one because they seemed to suit better personality-wise.
The thing that made him fall for her was that she was so personable, laid-back and easy to talk to (he has ASD).

My current housemate (female) tried POF. She's very gorgeous and a genuinely lovely, modest girl, but she was bombarded by what I could only describe as complete creeps, saying things like "Want to hook up?" " Do you give head?" That kind of rubbish.
She's recently tried again without putting up a photo and she seems to be getting a better response based on mutual interests and personality, not only by how she looks.