How many of you 20 somethings never been in a relationship?

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I just recently turned 28 and I still haven't had my first girlfriend. Sad, isn't it? At times it make me feel like a reject of society. It's unusual. When I was 20 I thought maybe things would change later on, but nope and 8 years later nothing has changed. It's not like I haven't made any effort. It's like be single or go out with some girl I don't even like. Then I have problem with meeting girls that are great and yet they are taken. Sigh.

About the same here, i'm turning 25 at the end of the month and i'm still relationshipless...
But i don't may allow myself to focus on that part of life since there is a lot more to do, though, it's nearly impossible.
I just want someone to care about, to hug, to... Whatever but even that hug isn't an option at the moment...

Good luck to you guys.

I see it a lot here, males in the 20-30 demographic that have never had a relationship, and they're a very common site in this section.

I personally have had two brief relationships - the first was quite a bad one, and the second went well in the beginning, but she broke up with me. Still a virgin, and depending on what your definition of 'first kiss' is, I haven't had mine (though I've kissed a girl on the cheek).

I'd like to say it's perfectly normal and natural, but I'm not going to sugarcoat it - in your early 20s, there's plenty of people, N.T. or aspie, who have never found love, but at 28 it does become something far more unusual and uncommon. But, it's not a sign of being a loser or failure.

And props to at least making an effort, as there's plenty that don't or make a half-a55ed effort yet expect a relationship to come easily to them.

Don't listen to anyone who accuses you of acting 'entitled' or deserving of a relationship.

There are some males that feel entitled to one, but if you're genuinely upset/miserable about your loneliness and your failure in finding love, that's not entitlement. Brooding and moping, feeling a little down, does not mean nor imply you actually feel entitled to a relationship.

26 here and turning 27 in a few months. I had the opportunity twice when I was younger to enter one but I wasn't interested. I don't think about it much as I have more pressing issues on my mind such as trying to find employment. Also I have always thought the goal of relationships was to eventually produce children, this is something I am definitely not interested in doing atm.

i'm the same age as the OP and still single, was I ever close to having a girlfriend? yes when I was 20, a girl I met on plentyoffish, we only went on 2 dates together, she wanted to hang out more but I didn't, I wasn't that strongly attracted to her, I wonder if that is karma affecting me

I think my time for having a girlfriend has passed lol. Girls were more interested in me when I was in high school, but now it's different.

plenty of fish sucks.

I'm in my twenties and my only relationship lasted for two days, and it was with a bipolar woman who was acting out her sexual fantasies with me because she was manic. It wasn't a meaningful relationship at all. I still have yet to know the feeling of true love.

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High school girls are more likely to flirt with and actively show an interest in guys because they are practicing for when they eventually do get a boyfriend. Adult women aren't likely to show an active interest in you, because they generally expect the man to make the first move.

I'm 26 and I still sometimes get high school girls flirting with me, but never girls my own age.

*raises hand*

I'm fine staying single, but I would like to experience the bond of love. I'll only pursue a guy whom means a lot to me and one I can see myself marrying. I won't date for superfluous reasons.

I think I will be forever alone.

Girls won't even talk to me let alone touch me or have sex with me.

Women completely ignore me (it's like I am invisible to them) and there is not much I can do to change it.

I wish I learned this one a decade ago: would have saved me years of hassles. Women might send a first message on a dating site, but they generally expect the man to take the lead from there. If you are waiting for a woman to make a move you will likely remain single. Sadly, the only women who made the first move on me were all seriously messed up in the head.

I thought I was a freak until all the married people I knew who found love at 25 started getting divorced one by one. I would say about 50% are divorced by 30. Many of my coworkers are either divorced or on their second marriages, which they started in their mid 30s.

For the record, I did not get my first relationship until almost 30 with a crazy, mentally unstable girl. It caused serious damage to the point I am still recovering from it.