Why do I attract people from the geek subculture?

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What I mean by the geek subculture is people who like video games, Pokemon, comic books, cosplaying, anime and similar stuff. I have geeky tendencies, but I'm not part of that subculture AT ALL. Why would I attract people from that subculture?

The blue hair might have something to do with it.

You're not a "Goth"--but you seem vaguely like a "Goth."

That's my impression. And it's the impression of somebody who knows virtually nothing about "geek" culture.

Out of all these things you mentioned, the only thing I liked and knew about when I was your age was comic books. Video games were just starting, and were only in arcades. There was no Pokémon yet. I don't even know what "cosplaying" is.

Do you feel like you want to look like a New Wave or Punk person of the late 70s-early 80s?

Funny... I'm geeky down to my very mitochondria & I briefly considered blue hair recently. Could happen, probably won't but it really could happen. I'm a pretty serious cyberpunk...

I'll post a pic if that happens though. Blue koolaid hair would at least be good for some laughs, something my friends & I seriously need.

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who are you looking to attract?

Honestly, I'm not much of a fan of the modern "geek" subculture. I am a geek, yes, but that's because I was born to *actual* geeks who used to do stuff like play D&D and program computers back in the 80s, and they left their mark on me. Much of the modern "geek" subculture is based around blatant consumerism of technological products, and products relating to corporate-driven media franchises.

I've known so many people who were in this "neo-geek" movement, and I've just never really caught onto it. Yes, we happen to like some of the same things, and I used to (maybe sorta still do) identify as an adherant of this movement, but my god, it's everywhere now, and it's annoying. Somehow, people think that being a geek means being into anime and superheroes, and obsessing over super popular TV and video game series. It's not.

I am a human being, not a "Big Bang Theory" extra. I don't care about following popular trends, I just do what I like. All these "geeks" who do well in school, have huge collections of expensive crap, know all the details of some media franchise, kick ass at games, build really flashy computers, or whatever, I simultaneously loathe and envy them.

I don't know if I could fit into any subculture at this point. Every one I can think of seems to involve some level of social or financial dedication. I don't have money, I don't have social skills, and I wish I could just stop giving a f**k. I dunno, maybe I'm just facing an identity crisis.

What kind of people *do* you want to attract? What are your interests? What do you consider important in a partner?

You can put on a shirt "I hate geeks" to solve this problem.

I get the feeling she would like the young Joan Jett very much.

There are many of those type of people around--the ones that are into the "broadened alternative subculture."

I think you'll attain more success as you get older. As people get older, their interests tend to broaden, and they tend to be less of a slave to trends.

I suppose think about the people you're attracted to and what they're interested in and who they find attractive then make yourself more attractive to them. If you want a more 'normal crowd' then probably a more normal hair color is a good start. 'Broad alternative subculture' and 'geek/neogeek' doesn't make a lot of sense to me.

I would say an example of "broadened alternative lifestyle" are people who wear New Wave-type/punk sorts of clothes, but don't get into most of the things (e.g., drugs, rave music) that many "alternative" people get into.

Who are you trying to attract? That is the question? I don't understand what is the difference between these 'neogeeks' and this alternative person you are looking to attract. If you are looking for an artist, maybe do something artistic? Metalheads? Stoners? Hipsters? What was the awful thing about these neogeeks and boring bros do? You have to actually put yourself in a place where these people you are attracted to are at.