I feel kind of bad...

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Warning: venting rant ahead

Alright so I have a really good relationship going on, but unfortunately it seems to have wrecked my boyfriends relationship with some friends/room-mates of his. I mean I guess others have told him that this particular couple has done the same sort of thing to other people so luckily I know I wasn't the specific cause. But yeah just a crappy situation, we are making the best of it though and potentially trying to get a apartment or something sooner than planned. I just don't see why people are so hard to deal with, autistics get crap for not being direct in communication but seriously plenty of non-atustics don't understand freaking tell someone to your face if you actually have a problem with them that you're going to keep. Sounds like his one room-mate has had a problem with me for some time but never said a word to me about it which I admit pisses me off quite a bit because no words with me and then all the sudden she tells my boyfriend all kinds of crap she hates about me...like that i don't have a job because he tried to confront her and the other room-mate, her husband about feeling walked all over and like its more their home than his when he's paying an equal if not more share in rent and utilities.

Kind of weird though as I certainly first noticed a slight feeling of hostility towards me at one point I mentioned trying to start out with some part time work this summer once I can meet with someone at the SSI office to figure out how I can try and transition to some part time work without immeaditly losing benefits to my boyfriend whilst she was in the room or overheard or something. I of course ignored it thinking I was being stupidly paranoid about people not liking me...turns out it was not stupid paranoia. Seems something undefined about me pisses some other females off to no end without me even doing anything as this isn't the first freaking time.

Is she the proclaimed feminist that you ranted about in the other thread?

Yes a real:

If your boyfriend likes you the way you are, who cares what other people think?

It's none of their business.

QFT.

I think you should just sort an apartment sooner, just ignore them as best you can.

Forget about them. There will always be people out there causing drama and trying to screw stuff up for other people. Even when there are no issues or drama, people have a way of fabricating it. You can't please everyone, don't let it affect the things which are good in life.

Sounds like a hateful b***h.

Yeah that is the plan...and I gotta just try not to let it get to me too much, as I don't need the stress of being all pissed off about it.

Your boyfriend should stand up for you or he isn't worth your time.

Oh he did, once she started going off about all that crap, that is why me and him aren't waiting till november to get a place away from those room-mates. He doesn't even want to talk to that room-mate anymore and he saw her as a good friend before this. As for the other room-mate he's not so bad however kinda lets her walk all over him, not really sure he actually has any problem with me aside from he has to or she'd be mad at him.

I think any communal living situation like that is prone to break down eventually, the SSI thing is just something some people have a prejudice against but people try to go as hurtful as they can it seems. AS isn't something totally visually apparent and when you get comfortable around one person it's hard for these people to understand the disability. 2 people living together makes is a lot easier going than 4, it's not something I would do besides out of necessity.

Yeah and I don't even live at my boyfriends, he just has me over a fair amount because I'm his girlfriend and he likes having me around. And as far as I knew the room-mates were cool with me to and I figured if there was any issue of me being over too much or them wanting more time alone they would have discussed it with my boyfriend and came to some kind of fair compromise. But sounding more like the one just decided somewhere along the line she doesn't like me...so to her me being around at all is a problem in her eyes.

Sounds like classic rivalry.

Sounds more like an incredibly ugly selfish person. I thought feminism and "social justice" was supposed to be against bigotry.

Nope, that only applies when it is someone else. We it is them, their jealousy is your fault and your bigotry. That is how it works with a victim complex.