WHYYYYYYY!! !! !!.........

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OK.... maybe a little melodramatic, but the woman ive been secretly in love with for the last three years announced she was engaged tonight at dinner...

i did try to flirt with her about two years ago, but i was warned off by my friends saying she prefered older men (im 24, she is 29, and the guy is in his 40's), but i never stopped having feelings for her.

it doesnt help that all the women i know offline just ignore and blank me...

I just feel so low, i feel like throwing my hands up in the air and giving up trying any more, i mean, whats the point? you could have everything in the whole world, but if you dont have love you havent got anything...

but i have nothing, absolutely nothing....Heh probably why women dont want me...

Ack!! ive made myself sad

Please don't be sad I bet there'll be someone if you just keep looking and keep a light heart - after all, so many people...I don't think I will ever get a partner as I don't interact in the right way - though I have loads of friends who are the opposite sex.

I'm a spanking new member, but I'll jump right in...

You're definitely not alone: while my situation is trivial compared to yours, I'm also in the same situation where a friend of mine, who I happen to have feelings for.. basically is slowly talking to me less and less now that she's finding out that I have feelings for her. It's pathetically painful; she's older than me by a mere 2 years (so I'm 19 and she's almost 21) but we used to get along just great. NT's suck Big Time.

One tip: Secret love.. bad idea.. having your own romance movie playing in your head is like going to a war with an imaginary army on your side..

..always spill the beans, regardless of whatever...

i did, sort of, but she just batted it aside in jest i think

ack... it would seem that it wasn't meant to be.. whenever that happens to me I simply make a list of reasons why it would never have/never will work out and move on...

But you are only 24, just a baby...well compared to me you are.Don't you give up. My husband married me when he was 37.

Move to the US. Women here think any guy with a British accent is sexy.

And speaking of age, maybe this only applies to NT men, but I think most men aren't really ready for a relationship till they're about 35.

But what about my other piece of advice?

I agree that it is difficult to find the 'right person'...
What I would like to say is that...don't be discouraged because of the cases that didn't work out...It's bound to not work out until you meet the right person...
I think...what we need is patience and undying hope and faith...
And, you're 24 and you seem to be a nice person with good looks and a good heart. I doubt that this woman will be your last chance..I'm sure there will be more.
More important...(I'm saying this because I read from another forum that you are a Christian...I hope that is OK) God will lead your way...He will prepare you and He will prepare a bride for you as well...you never know how things will work out...but you can be sure that it will...