showing someone you like them

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what is the best way to show someone you like them but not over doing it?

I think you should try to be friendly first, before you make any major moves.

both. romantically and a friend. more romantically though

Have you picked up on any signs of interest? Have you developed a friendship at all?

I have to vehemently disagree with the comment saying just be friendly. If you don't indicate romantic interest in some fashion you will land in the "friend zone" and will languish there forever. How to indicate the interest is not a question I can answer however.

I think staring at them or smiling at them or something.

Well, if he can establish a friendship first, then he can start working on being able to flirt in a non-confrontational way. If he leads with a strong come-on, he might scare her off, before she even gets the chance to know him. I think "friends" who are meant to be together romantically, eventually figure it out. If they never get together, then there probably weren't mutual feelings.

I'm so damned bad at this.
There have been times when
I've fallen in love, before they
even know that I'm interested
(well, once).

There is a fine line between showing an acceptable amount of interest, and coming on far too strong and making yourself look foolish.

I... haven't quite mastered keeping on the right side of that line

I panic when I see someone I like. Then I look stupid.

me too I make sure I get away fast enough so they can't see me

I'm going to attempt an audacious
display of desire.

Yeah, same, but half the time I sound like an idiot too.

hold eye contact for a few seconds and give them a smile and then look away again

once they grab the bait move in a bit and ask them about their intrests.

after you have done that you will know what they like and can therefore go in for the final part of the plan

once you have decided on a good neutral location like a cinema ask them to go and see a movie with you and a few friends.

once in the cinema make sure that you and the special someone are sitting next to each other.

if she shows any signs of liking you then move it along a bit further but take it easy and pick up on the cues and the halt messages.

the idea of having friends around with you means that they do not feel intimidated by it just being you and them but by sitting next to them you are giving the go ahead for them to show intrest but if they dont you could always fall back on the reasoning that you bought them as a friend.

i hope this helps and that they end up liking you as well.

im using them a lot cause im not sure whether the object of your affections is a guy or a girl.

im being nosy but which one is it.

That's...kind of the point. Not all of us can pick up on those messages. Not all of us even know what to look for. That, and carrying around some sort of manual on the subject might be a bit off-putting.

I can just imagine thumbing through
looking up every gesture. Luckily, every
now and then, they do things that can't
be mistaken (okay - well I used to be able
to mistake it), like feeding you with their
fingers, or groping you.