girl at uni

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i met this girl at uni through mutual friends we revised as a group in library for an exam. shes quite bubbly and friendly towards everyone and very outgoing. we never really spoke before turns out she lives a few roads away and she seen me out of her window somtimes. (would be creepy if she wasn't so hot lol) how would i go about asking her out . i have her phone number and ive never texted her individually only on the group chat on whatsapp

Do you see her at uni? It would be better to ask her to something light and casual in person, like a drink after a lecture. If not, a short text with a similar invitation would be ok.

I would say ask her out for coffee.

I would also aim to start as friends first. If you can get along as friends, it's a good foundation for a relationship.

Just ask her out for coffee or something not as a date that puts pressure on but to see if you click or not.

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so i was walking from the shops the other evening . The girl apperently saw me but didnt say anything . Then sent a whatsapp message in the group chaat saying she saw me . i said i was tired as i just came from a hard day at work. she said aww u looked tired i was going to scream your name out then thought i would scare u . what does this mean?

1. She noticed you.
2. She cares how you feel.

Congratulations! Ask her out for coffee

but why wouldn't she speak to me if she saw me if she was into me

Becouse you are the man, starting things is your job.

Really just ask for a coffee, or for her to join you in something you were doing anyway (going to a play or a special lecture or something)
Leave the state of the activity vague, dont state it is a date (unless she asks you whether it is) but also dont stress that it isnt one either

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I believe that us constantly validating that you are fancied by the women you fancy and you should ask them out will not be of much use to you as you're unwilling to act on asking girls out.

By the looks of the fourth thread, you were able to ask a girl out and it went ok. And then again in another thread. I get the feeling you fear rejection big time and want them to make all the moves, which simply won't happen.

There is no pressure to get it right the first time. The first girl you ask out isn't always going to be someone you grow old with. Most guys you'll talk to who are in steady relationships and a bit older than you have had at least a couple of girlfriends. Not being compatible or getting it right the first time shouldn't be a concern. It's a natural process in dating.