NDs girls dating ND or NT

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This isn't a generalisation or anything just a curiousity I wondered what opinions people would have on.

I noticed it has been suggested that ND girls should stick to ND guys. What is your opinion do you think they should date NDs, NTs, or not worry about it?

Also why do you feel that way? I just was just insanely curious about your thoughts on this.

No, I don't agree with any sort of enforced segregation.

An ND girl might find an NT guy, for example, to be a fine complement. He might be better with the social aspects of things; and she might be better with the creative aspects. If both have a similar philosophy of life, they can have a great relationship, get married, etc.

An NT girl (yes, I've seen this quite a bit) frequently likes ND guys because it brings out some sort of maternal instinct. This might be unhealthy--or it might be great. Maybe the ND guy needs nurturing, since he might hardly get nurturing from his own family. On the flip side, the NT girl admires the ND guy because of his logical take on things, which complements her own whimsical take on things.

Of course, people of the "same" neurology frequently get along as well--probably, at times, for similar reasons.

I don't think that anyone should be reduced to a "ND" or "NT" label. There are plenty of unique people out there, and if you pass up someone because of some silly preconceived notion like that, then you might end up losing a perfectly good match. People who are both ND and NT encompass an entire spectrum, full of just about every personality type imaginable.

Yep....that, too!

Best to ignore rdso he thinks aspires are a elite race of non modern humans.

No, I don't agree either. Everyone is different. Plus, how are you meant to meet someone else on the spectrum? As you get older the dating pool gets smaller as it is, without adding any other restrictions.

It shouldn't make the slightest bit of difference. If 2 people complement each other in life they should be together

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Wow, I hinted that maybe ND girls would increase their success by being more natural and learning to detect NDs, and now everybody just goes crazy.

I think the major problem with aspies is not so much that they fail in social situations, but rather that they can be misled so easily and then refuse to reconsider their positions using rational thought. We've heard this many times before: Aspies are rational human beings that are not controlled by emotions. Wrong. Aspies are incredibly irrational in the dating context, because they know their method doesn't work, yet they refuse to try something better. Because somebody, be it friends, parents, teachers or somebody else, have told them how (NTs) form relationship with sex and dating, so that's how it works. For everybody. Period. The fact that it doesn't work for them is just something temporary that could be fixed. With the strong will typical of aspies they will still succeed in the end, because it's just a big number game anyway. So they continue in the same old tracks until they die.

Besides, there is not much human variation in personality traits that cannot be linked to neurodiversity. 70% of human diversity is linked to neurodiversity. So people that claim they will meet an NT with some "odd" traits they fancy are just fooling themselves. These traits are very likely ND traits, which of course could be part of some NTs, but that are much easier found in NDs.

I'm also not denying that complementary traits is a good thing. It's just that complementary relationship traits is not. So you can in fact get together with somebody with complementary traits even if you prefer only people that work like NDs in the relationship area. This even seems to be rather common too.

You Hinted! You constantly go on and on about it. We've got the point where we're all like just shut the hell up already!