How can I let him know I like him?

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I spoke to this guy a few days ago and I thought he seemed very nice and I would possibly like to see him again. However, I would like to do this as subtly as is possible without seeming indifferent. I have spoken to many of my friends about this- unfortunately, most of them have social skills as bad as, or worse than, my own- no progress has been made. How can I make it clear without 1) making him feel uncomfortable and 2) making myself vulnerable to being hurt emotionally? I should be seeing him quite regularly in the future (university) but this may not provide many opportunities to speak to him specifically. Also, I should probably mention that he is very, very, very neurotypical, so being overly direct may not be the best option.

Thanks

I know you said in another thread you have confidence issues, but if you can, it wouldn't be a bad idea to ask him out yourself.

Next time you see him, try to say "Hey, X! I was wondering if you wanted to grab lunch/coffee with me/study with me over lunch/coffee, I really enjoyed talking to you last time!".

That's all it takes. If he's interested back, he will say yes.

Otherwise, if you see him in class frequently/pass by him frequently, you can just stop for chit-chat but hint each time that you're interested in him.

If you do not like or understand flirting, then you don't have to necessarily flirt the traditional way.

Even just having normal conversation with him and adding here and there 'Wow, that's fascinating. I'd love to hear more over lunch with you sometime." etc. may give him the hint.

Good luck.