Men: What do you expect of women in a relationship?

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I'm curious of the ways you expect a woman to act and the things you expect a woman to do in a relationship.

You may use fictional characters as working examples if that is easiest.

Be honest; don't lie and don't cheat, that's about it. I'm not one for long lists of expectations and things you must do.

Be honest
Don't Lie
Don't Cheat
Accept that you may have to give emotional support occasionally
Accept that there will be burdens and inconveniences at times
Convert to Christianity (if necessary)
Stop being asexual (if necessary)
Don't be waiting until marriage for sex.
Realize that asking for relationship advice doesn't constitute weakness or an inability to communicate directly.
Don't have a problem with oral sex or fetishes
Don't think of a vacation as "no computer or video games for x number of days"

I'm not sure if you intend 'expect a woman to act' to mean 'anticipate that a woman will act this way' or 'need a woman to act this way in order for the relationship to work'. They are, sadly, different things for me.

If a woman wants a relationship with me she needs to be able to communicate and not to be afraid of bringing up awkward subjects or "touchy" ones.

It will show what kind of person she is, a total douche bag that i really should not waste any more time on, or a very empathic person that wants to make it work.

Unfortunately, the norm in society seems to be "be quiet - and happy".

Every one of these issues women also have with men. My experience with men romantically is that they are all liars. I

know all men are not liars so It must be that I have a knack for being attracted to the wrong ones. Maybe if we could

agree that the problem is we're attracted to the wrong people in the first place and try to figure out how to stop the

pattern we could stop all the bash threads. Not that I'm saying this thread is that, It just made me think of it.

No. You all misunderstand.

I am not asking what ethical qualities you expect of her. I'm asking what responsibilities do you expect of her in a relationship?

For example, my perception of what NT women expect of men in no particular order.

1. Protect her.
2. Help with physical things.
3. Tell her what he wants/needs.
4. Initiate romantic relations.
5. Make decisions when she can't decide.
6. Hold her when she is scared.
7. Make her feel special.
8. Fix things.

My perception of what NT men expect of women.

1. Remember where he left things.
2. Do his laundry.
3. Make him dinner.
4. Make him comfortable and relaxed at home.
5. Be emotionally sensitive.
6. Be emotionally warm.
7. Remember his appointments.
8. Be graceful.
9. Make him feel light hearted.


And so on.

So I ask again, what do you expect of a woman?

Of that second list, the only things that I would *need* are 1 and 5-9. I can cook and clean for myself (and I keep on being told that such is an attractive quality to the ladies but I see no direct evidence of that). Not to mention that i'd love to cook up a nice meal for her some time. What's not on the list that would be nice (though not required): let me hold her once in a while, to compliment me when i do something worth complimenting (although i guess that would fall under "be emotionally warm"), and to be inviting (that is, to make it clear that a romantic overture is what she desires, otherwise id be too scared to initiate anything for fear of rejection)

In a nutshell, the physical things can be left behind, but it's the emotional companionship i need...

To know how to make chocolate cake .... and hummus.

I have no problem to wash the dishes.

Interesting thread.

I would want to cook for my man
Do his washing and make beds and clean and stuff just to show him I love him