Is late interest typical of us atypical?

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In all seriousness, though I have noticed sculpted bodies of with either gender over the years with appreciation, I actually have never found a nude person arousing until very recent with my fiance. And he wasn't even my usual "type".
If not for peer pressure I probably would never have gotten my Prom date which was a hideous fail in the end. I had an understanding about things, as like it was likely to be enjoyable enough if i could endure the touching, but no personal interest in pursuing such. I wanted kids, a bunch. I like kids even.

I was pursued and complied to request a few times but I only really went out of my way to approach for one person and hyper avoided interest in the other, but seems he had similar designs >_<.

I enjoy drawing nudes, but in any other situation I find naked people funny as f*, especially men. Porn was/is a poor key for me. You can guess what kind of hell date I would be to an over-amorous sort.

After prom I didn't date for almost 4 years and dated at 19. It was..meh, a little cute and fuzzy. But Mr. Z is what we called a nee'r do well. Shoulda stayed just friends. We did in a way. A few less entangled date nights here and there. The next one I really wanted but Mr. Y was unfaithful cad. My next one, my Monster X. Was a huge mistake. Was terrified to say no. Terrified for years until I figured better off dead than another minute in his company. Then a fellow soldier who ended up Meh to meh degree. Lyin doofus jerk! All are big guys and people who had learning disabilities and medications as kids. Coinky dink? After divorce, I gave both Y & Z second chances only to realize exes are X's for good reason.

Then Hunny. Quirky, yes. Not a big guy but has a lot of presence. And I am attracted to him physically enough not to revert to 4th grade ermegerd giggling and just think "raowr"

But I really had no interest in touching or being touched well to my 30s. But I was married to Ghidra. I do like kissing which is I guess not usually cool with Aspies. But even then there has to be a spark. I didn't really have an inteerst until I was in my 40s. Even so, it was very hard to incite and keep burning.


So are a many Aspies/ASD's late bloomers?

In short, yes, though some people on the spectrum go through an early puberty.

I went through puberty early. I'm sort of on the asexual spectrum thou & despite masturbating aLOT sense I was 10, I had no desire to actually have sex outside a romantic relationship. I had no interest in romantic relationships till my 1st girlfriend told me she liked me when I was 20. We were good friends & others knew we were becoming a couple before I even realized I liked her.