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Jamesy
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23 Jul 2016, 11:08 am

As an aspie guy why is it much easier for me to make casual friends in college and the bar scene than it is for me to get a casual girlfriend/relationship?


To be honest in my mind the impression I have is that getting a casual girlfriend should be quite straightforward but it's not as easy as it appears.



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23 Jul 2016, 12:22 pm

What is a casual girlfriend? Usually if two people make it to the point of boyfriend and girlfriend its more serious than casual by that point.


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23 Jul 2016, 12:26 pm

Sweetleaf wrote:
What is a casual girlfriend? Usually if two people make it to the point of boyfriend and girlfriend its more serious than casual by that point.




Just in general why is getting a relationship harder than getting a frienship.



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23 Jul 2016, 1:20 pm

Jamesy wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
What is a casual girlfriend? Usually if two people make it to the point of boyfriend and girlfriend its more serious than casual by that point.




Just in general why is getting a relationship harder than getting a frienship.


I think in general people think a relationship is a lot more serious, not to mention exclusive and long-term, than a friendship, so people have larger demands. Relationships also have courtship rituals, something that friendship lacks.