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.... look at all these threads here in this section, what's the point of them?

They change no one's life, no?

To express opinions and thoughts...isn't that what most forums are for?

Not really, most forums is to exchange information to solve a specific thing, like the programmers or programs forums where one posts an issue and others try to help and troubleshoot.

To know that there are other people out there with similar problems.

To get advice. I also learn some things from reading replies from other threads, not just love and dating.

That's such an aspie question. "What's the point of small talk if you aren't exchanging anything factual?"

To express what you've experienced, see if anyone else has felt the same, and maybe get advice, support or a different perspective.

I wouldn't say any one particular thread has 'changed my life', but being on these forums has definitely made a change to me. I don't feel so alone now for starters, and I actually feel able to express myself emotionally, something which I never do in real life (publicly anyway).

I echo what the others are saying. They feel like they can express their feelings here--more than they could in the "real world."

Yes, Sir....there is use to these threads!

^ I echo...that they're just...echoes.

I feel like some people on here helped me with my relationship problems where i felt better expressing them anonymously and i really appreciate that

I'm making tall talk, even though I'm short.

I hope somebody comes soon to take the thorn out of Boo's foot.

Don't you dare diss this forum.

In just a few years I learnt so much about love and dating that some N.T.'s don't even learn in their entire youth.

The difference between this forum and others is obviously the vast majority of posters here have ASD and thus offer an alternative perspective on dating.

It's far more specific and tailored to us then the generic Normie advice of 'just be confident, bro!' and 'women don't care about looks, just personality!' etc.

Most N.T.'s can't provide specific advice to us because our story is a little different to theirs.

The N.T.'s that do come here though also offer some important information to learn from as they have the social skills we typically do not.

It's like us Aspies debate and think of the ideas, the socially successful N.T.'s come in and can confirm if we're on the right track or not.

I typically use this forum, Reddit's 'Forever Alone' sub-section for specific advice tailored to people with Aspergers or people with Anxiety or people who are otherwise ugly or have actually struggled with dating instead of stupid, useless regurgitated Normie advice like "You'll find love when you stop looking" and "You've got to be happy on your own first".

I now believe these are lies.

For more general advice I use youtube approach/'social experiment' videos, a bit of PUA (about 90% of it is rubbish, but there's some gold in there) Bodybuilding.com Misc section, and other random forums.

Don't get me wrong though, plenty of users here offer generic Normie advice that doesn't apply to the real-world, as I'm sure you would know by now.

But yes, I agree despite all I've learnt, progress for most people here has been minimal/non-existent.

Pretty sad, really.