making the effort to enrich my dating life, really need plen

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Spichs
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10 Jul 2016, 10:53 pm

Hi all,I'm writing this post, considering that I've been having problems for a while to get to know the ladies, I don't know whether or not it has something to do with me, or if it's just out of bad luck.



I am hanging out about 2-3 times each week :ninja: , most likely to nightclubs and bars, It really has been quite hard for me personally, because I'm not the kind of guy who's known for how sociable or outgoing he's. I felt sort of self-conscious and even embarrassed, and it is fairly challenging to me (much more) to talk in all those types of enviroment with the ladies, even thought, I had accomplished it, I've not acquired much succes, would you fellas give me some guidance?



izzeme
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11 Jul 2016, 8:13 am

the bar scene isn't really the place to enrich your dating life; it is more for your (casual) sex life.

People (and women in particular) can sense that you are not comfortable, which makes it hard to make any kind of connection.

I recommend that you stay away from bars as a place to meet people, and join hobby groups.
step one is to make friends and to become more comfortable in having regular conversations.



Spichs
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11 Jul 2016, 2:47 pm

dunno that seems to be like saying, dont go to college, there are so many people doing the same, and it is hardd, so quit already...