How to meet quiet women living away at University?

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I'm finally making the choice to move to where my university is for my last full time year of study instead of travelling, in about a month. This is a big choice for me to live independently and have put it off for a long time, but moving away from family at the moment is paramount because of the stress associated with family living.
Anyway, with the independent living thing, I have a whole year to meet women. I'm 20 and still virgin, but would really like to find a partner, another area of life I've put off and I kind of have this core belief I'm a burden to people which dosen't help. If any time is right to meet women its this though because I live in a small town where you need a car to go anywhere remotely exciting, and all the fish is above my age group. But I'll be moving to a city with lots of potential people to meet.

But the problem is I don't actually go to a university, weird huh? Its actually a college but its a partnered university course, so although the smaller lectures and atmosphere is better suited for my ASD, I'm surrounded by 16 year olds and feel out of place. My course is male centered so there's no girls I can converse with regarding my special interest (music)

So I'll have to work harder, and because of my ASD it means I have to work harder probably than most people anyway to meet people. I'm not sure I can attend social groups in the other universities. I'm worried I will just be bogged down with work and not getting out there and put simply, get laid like many students do
I've been on dating sites but a lot of the women are much older than me not students and professionals, and students may be more accepting if I don't have a job as I'm studying full time or struggle to pay rent. But thats an option.

I would like advice on where I could at least meet shy, quiet girls around my age group like students. I thought about libraries being a good option but as said I don't think I'm allowed to access the other universities resources if I don't study there. My university experience hasn't been very good
I do like the idea of meeting a musician girl with my shared interest but concerts and events to do with music can make me sensitive to noise. I just want to be with a nice, quiet girl who isn't a party animal. I don't want to mess up this chance to meet them and not take action.

Thanks!

I wish I could meet girls like that. I've seen girls who seem quiet and friendly at first (maybe because they're shy about meeting new people), and then after a while, they get comfortable and transform into one of those loud, bossy types, which turns me off. Small earplugs can help with loud concerts. I stick them in far enough so that they barely show.

You might struggle to find that kind of girl, as girls at that age tend to want to party etc and a big part of going to uni is the social life, not the academics. It's probably slightly better now that tuition is so high, but I went to uni when education was free and the vast majority of people at my uni had no interest in learning at all.

That said, just keep an eye out when you are actually there. There are always a fair amount of social things going on at college\uni, especially fresher's week. Going anywhere with the intention of meeting women is a little bit seedy though. Women aren't objects you go to the supermarket to obtain, there is no "quiet girl aisle" I'm afraid.

Instead you should alter your thought process and just go with the flow. See what is happening that will help you meet people, see if there is anyone on your course you might like, or on other courses (probably not a good idea to get involved with someone on your own course), just let these things happen organically if they are going to happen. Also remember that uni romances are a lot like holiday romances...for a good time, not a long time.