I have a problem with my best friend and my girlfriend.

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Basically I have a group of friends for years, and when I got a gf (for three years now), I invited her into that group. One of the members of the group was a woman I went out with a few times way back. Things didn't work out between me and her, but we remained good friends, and all hung out together. I am going to call her FF (female friend), so there is no confusion between her and my best friend, which I will call BF.

Now my GF invited FF out with her and her friends, one day when I was working that night. It was at a bar, and my GF's parents came there by coincidence. My FF bragged to everyone about how sex with me was so often back then and went into graphic detail, with my GF's parents right there.

I got really mad at the FF, and stopped hanging out with her for embarrassing me with my GF and her parents like that without any consideration.

So that was a few months ago. I told my other friends in the group that I did not want to hang out with my FF anymore cause of what she did. My BF agreed, and said she was crazy and had no problem excluding her because of what she did as well.

Fast forward a few months later, till now, my BF invited me to go out for coffee and asked if it was okay to bring the FF as well. I said not really, cause of what happened before, and maybe we can hold off on that for the time being. My BF said sure, no problem.

I told my GF this in a conversation and she said she was glad that I said no to that. My GF's friend, (let's call her GFF), was there and heard me and her talking about it. The GFF is my GF's friend, but also hangs out with my BF a lot and lately they seem to have become an item.

Now after my GF casually explained to GFF why she doesn't want FF to come out with us anymore, GFF later left our place and went home. I then shortly after, get a text from my BF and he says that drama has now been caused since we told GFF that he asked to invite GFF to come and hang out with us.

BF seems really pissed off and is no longer talking to me because of this. He is hanging out with GFF a lot though, and GFF is telling my GF that everything seems fine, and she doesn't know what the problem is, but he seems to have a problem with me and won't talk to me now.

Can anyone tell me what might be going on, or did I do something wrong here? I don't want to loose my BF over this, and do not know what happened? What do you think?

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Guys don't like it when you limit their options in hanging out with other girls. Simples.

I'm in the dark as much as anyone but some young guys do like to surround themselves with women and when the OP said the Other girl couldn't hang out with them (And rightly so) he might've been seen as a killjoy. The best friend might have also just got tired of the girl-friend and took an interest in the new girl, the GFF and is focuses purely on her at this moment in time.

I don't think this is something that can really be resolved until the best friend is single and needs his guy friends again. Sounds cynical but I've seen it plenty of times with my own friends.