How to find a Girlfriend

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Hi, Im Sam. Im 23 and i have Autisim/Asperger's. I have never had A girlfriend before. I also have never kissed a girl before. Its really getting me down. My Step Brother and Step Sister have both got partners. My Step Brother always brings his girlfriend round to visit my Stepdad/Mum and they always watch a movie/Bored Games together and my step sister has gone on holiday with her Boyfriend.

I have tried getting a Girlfriend on Plenty of Fish but i get no replies. I don't know what to do. No girl seems to look at me when i'm out and im getting Jealous because i want to bring my girlfriend round to meet my stepdad/mum and my father/stepmum and not the other way round

Can anybody help

Join a club which reflects your special interest. If a girl is a member of the club, you stand a decent chance of establishing at least a friendship with her.

Perhaps you could try a dating agency?

Online dating is hard but if yu decide to have another go at it I have a little advice (I have more but it would bore you hehehe)

-research how to make a good profile
-try different sites
-regularly message people
-make sure you have both a picture of you face (like a selfie) and also another pic of you in a more casual setting.

I'm still on a Dating site called Plenty of Fish but i am getting no responses. They view my Profile and don't do anything. I can't be that ugly. Well maybe i am because no girls look at me when i'm out.

You could try working on your appearance if you think that is your problem. Exercise to build mussels & lose weight if your overweight, treat your acne if you you have acne, get a good haircut, wear trendy cloths when your out.

Don't you think i've been trying. I use my face wash all the time but none of them seem to work. I'm 6ft and 13 stone so i'm not overweight. I Think i've got a great haircut

My Stepbrother doesn't look handsome but he has a girlfriend. Why not me

Perhaps it's your body language which is something lots of us Aspies including me have problems with

This is my Profile on Plenty of Fish

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=99828829

I'm not that ugly am i

You might look a tad better without the glasses if your able to get contacts or lasik or don't need to wear em all the time.

But there is surely a girl out there who won't change me. I have to wear glasses because my eyes hurt with contacts. I just have to accept im ugly. Maybe i should just end my life

You aren't ugly. Online dating is hard for most people, and you just have to learn how to approach it properly. Your profile says absolutely nothing about you and only has a single picture, so how would someone who reads it even know if they want to talk to you? I think that you would have much more success if you really expand upon it and give people an idea of who you are as a person, and what your interests are. More pictures would help too, ideally taken in a fun or interesting setting. Success in online dating often has nothing to do with who you are, and more to do with how you structure your profile and messages. Also, your profile says that you were in a relationship for over a year - if that's not the case, then it's best not to lie and it doesn't matter as much as you might think it does. If you do meet someone, that's a pretty big piece of information that would come out eventually.

Before you work on dating, I think that you should work on your self esteem. Have you considered seeing a therapist or counselor? Therapy was a big help for me, and I would highly suggest it if you're able. It helped me work through some of my issues, and eventually helped me to find my first relationship. Dating will be infinitely easier for you if you're able to love and appreciate yourself first.

You live in the same town as golfer Ian Woosnam, I believe.

You look okay. Say more about yourself. I'm 5 foot 4.75, and weigh 13.5 Stone. Girls look at me okay--it's not the weight. How about girls in your town? How are they?

Maybe go to a trivia night at a pub. You might see pretty chicks there who are good at trivia; who knows?

Ive changed my profile, updated it but still no girls are messaging me. How do i find a Girlfriend without online dating. What do i do

Why don't you respond to girls on the dating sites?

Why don't you go to a pub on Trivia Night?

Because no Girls are messaging me thats why. How can I respond to girls if they don't message me