I hate being approachable

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I hate that I'm approachable enough for disgusting neckbeards to approach me, but not attractive enough for actual attractive people. I wish I had an icier and sharper vibe. I'm thinking of going platinum blonde. I'm hoping that will help me come across as outgoing and a bit icy.

I like you better when you're approachable and a swell person all around.

I'm no "neckbeard" LOL

I'm not even sure I know what people mean when they say I'm approachable. I think they mean that I look soft(opposite of icy or edgy), average and introverted. I bet if I looked the way I want to look I'd look less approachable.

To me, being approachable means that you're a nice person, and that you'll listen to what people say.

People aren't afraid to say Hi to you, because they know you won't get paranoid about their intentions, and get bitchy about it.

I think you'll meet better-quality people if you are approachable. If you are icy, the better-quality people would think: "I don't want to put up with that front that the person is putting in front of her true self."

I’m a prime example of a disgusting neckbeard and I’d rather be made to know in no uncertain terms I’m not welcome than have someone be fake nice to me all the while they hate me for not guessing that I should bugger off and leave them alone. In fact, this is how I learned to leave people alone; fortunately, I learned it long before the idea of dating ever entered my mind.

You hate geeks and neckbeards-you love attractive and cool people -we get that, you said it for like the millionth time.

I don't know what you're talking about. You're the COOLEST and EDGIEST person I've ever seen. I can't believe those ugly, fatass neckbeards would even dare approach you. You're certainly 2edgy4me.

I've heard plenty of women are approached by men they aren't attracted to or even dislike.

I'm sure you're not the only woman this happens to.

What you should learn is how to make a good glare/look of anger with your face.

Have a neutral/happy facial expression the rest of the time, but the second a nerdy/neckbeard looking male shows even a hint that he's about to approach you, give him a death stare that will make him back-off before he even opens his mouth.

I hear some women do it ALL the time to some men, so it's not like it's considered rude or mean for you to do it.

That or, y'know, you could just politely say "No thanks" if it ever happens, and then become aggressive only if they don't listen and won't leave you alone.

Yes, from pictures you don't look 'soft' necessarily, but rather 'friendly', and average. I wouldn't say introverted, but more than likely Ambiverted. Very plain and normal, but in a 'good' way. 'Down-to-Earth'. Not likely to chew a guy's head off for approaching (keep in mind since men have to do the approaching, they may encounter rudeness from some women, the worst of which may even insult or put him down directly rather than just politely say no, so the more approachable looking, the better in our eyes).

Honestly, I wouldn't go through the effort of being unapproachable to absolutely everyone, because then it might drive away the one's you're actually interested in.

Goth and alternative women aren't always necessarily rough, tough and edgy 24/7. Some goth women are pretty much just a normal, regular person, but they have love for 'dark' things, rock/metal music, and like the goth aesthetic, so I wouldn't go thinking for a second that you also have to be just as icy, edgy, rough and tough to be accepted by alternative women.

If anything, you may provide a good contrast to punk and alternative women - they say opposites attract sometimes.

What exactly makes me look friendly and down to earth?

You can print shirts to wear that read "Death to geeks, neckbeards and jews".


This certainly will make you look way less approachable and friendly.

^No, that would NEVER work.

They'd likely think it's sarcastic and she actually loved geeks, neckbeards and jews.

OR

they would think it is a quote from some geeky tv show like Big Bang Theory and a nerdy character says it, not realizing they are all three of those things themselves.

There is no other possibility.

A simple "I don't date neckbeards", or "I don't want anything to do with neckbeards—leave me the hell alone" might work better. She should also be quick and to the point telling them with a deadly serious, unambiguously disgusted face to f**k off when they approach her.

If all else fails, you can poke their eyes with a pencil, that should work.