What Women Want

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The world of dating is a weird, weird world. That's why so many horror stories come from it. Less horror stories come from actual horror novels than the world of real-world dating, and that fact is disturbing to anyone who puts a feeler out to the real world of men meeting women, women meeting men, and same genders meeting other same-gendered people. Or any other variation we might've missed. It's all basically frightening and can scar you for life if you let it - you've probably met somebody that's been incredibly burned by the dating scene. It's not a pretty sight.


1. Women want to date good men.

They say 10% of the men that are out there get 90% of the women. Why? Because they're the alpha males of the group. They have the pick of the women they want, while the rest of us shuffle our feet around and play the 'nice guy'. They don't have to. They already have the interest, and just have to parlay it into coordinating the proper logistics and pushing physical escalation forward. Sucks, doesn't it? Not really, because once you learn what it is women are after, you can actively make yourself into the type of person that can add value to them instead of taking it away. You can stop being that guy who takes things away from people, and start being the guy who adds. It's entirely fixable.

2. Women want to date men who are leaders.

This is more subtle, but if someone is projecting influence on the group, that's the person everyone's going to be attracted to. In a loud group, the quiet one is viewed as the odd one out and the attractive one. In a quiet group, the loud one is the same way. The person who can influence everyone's actions and gets the most attention, the person that people defer to is generally the leader. You can be a leader. Stop being the quietest, most timid version of yourself, and live up to the promise of the image that you have in your head. Instead of thinking about what the proper thing to do in a given situation is, think about what the best version of yourself would do, and simply follow suit.

3. Don't be afraid of getting sexual.

One of the biggest problems that you see again and again with guys that are going out is that they get the girls interested in them, then don't know what to do once the energy in a conversation shifts in a different direction. Girls want to be sexual. Otherwise, they'd have no use for us men. They'd just sit at home, doing whatever it is that brings them joy, but there's something in them - just like us - that makes them want to ravage the men they find attractive. You just have to be that attractive man. So, when the best version of yourself is faced with a girl who is hanging around you, trying to be alone with you, etc. etc. - what is he going to do? He's going to step up his game and bring it to the next level is what he's going to do. Isolate her, and start up an escalation ladder. Either one that you've heard about before, or one that works for you.

Please don't make posts about what "women" want: women are individuals and want different things from one to the next. "What women want" is to have men stop thinking of us as a monolithic hive-mind entity and instead see us as individual human beings.

wow what a relief now I know what I want...

I actually tend to prefer fellow 'odd ones out' and don't really see the whole 'alpha male' image as very attractive...also its not very compatible with humans, makes a lot more sense when applied to wolves and dogs.

Not even Wolfmen!

^ I figured out that there will be a lot of different types of extroverts..not all of them will be too scary to me based on what you said above. The right person for you seems to have discovered you. He's so lucky to have you around.

Everyone of your posts is some kind of short article that's kind of dumb.

I don't care what women in general want, I don't want women that are into dating, want to be led or dominated or want a lot of sex. I'm sure "my" type of women exist too, so what the OP presents is not "what women want", but mostly "what many NT women want", which is kind of irrelevant.

Are you planning to promote a pua book soon?