How do I find a girl online?

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This may be asked a million times, but I want a personal answer with personal experience.

I want to try online dating, but I need advice and feedback from you guys.

First off, which site do you think would do best?

I don't recommend any of the dating sites. They're a waste of time.

Plenty of Fish and just keep going - for years, and be prepared for a lot of disappointment.

It's as heartless as telesales, just keep going.

A male friend of mine paid a lot of money to go on a posh dating site, and it was every bit as bad as Plenty of Fish. It's not the website's fault, it's people. I'm starting to think that people are not good things.

Unfortunately my current living situation isn't as great as I hope. I live in a smaller metro region, that might exacerbate the problem a little bit. I'm really hoping for a change, like some quick work I can get for experience.

I'm from the UK, so that may affect things. My experience is from around '08 to '11.

I was on Plenty of Fish, then OK Cupid. I found the latter far more pleasant, in both design and people. PoF is a mess, but I did find some interesting people on there. OKC seems to have gone downhill, presumably gearing toward smartphones and trying to compete with Tinder.

It really depends on what you're looking for. I'm very narrow and specific in who and what attracts me. I was sort of aware of this at the start, and way more so at the end. I went through profile after profile after profile, rejecting most of them as being of no interest to me. The ones that were of interest, I messaged. Some messaged me. I got a few dates, and one year long relationship out of them.

It can work, as long as you don't flip out if someone doesn't reply to you, and you don't go on a message spree out of desperation. Actually have something to say, and prepare to get profile fatigue.

okcupid.com has four stars in my book. You'll need a detailed profile, and fully clothed pics. Add in a car and a job and you pretty much clear the bar. Just be ready for a lot of teases, and a minimal amount of scams. Definitely don't chat with anyone out of the country.

It's the internet, so you get:

People who have a boring job and create profiles to create amusing messages, never intending to meet anyone.

Women who evidently require you to look like George Clooney with a bank balance to match.

People posting as women whom I suspect to be male truck drivers.

The mentally ill.

Gold diggers / people scamming.

That's probably 40 percent? 70 percent? of the profiles on a dating site.

This is written from the male point of view, I expect that from a woman's point of view it is a lot lot worse.

It's really not that bad.
You generally find the same demographic as you find at your local bar.

I find Okcupid to be the best site for meeting people to date, some seem to only have the option of selecting 'matches' it gives you so you only end up messaging who the site tells you to. But with OKcupid you can just look up your surrounding area and browse profiles of people close enough you can actually meet them in person without too much difficulty. Then message ones who seem like someone you'd get along with, that you'd like to meet.

Oh and don't listen to the people saying it only a specific demographic on that site, there are all sorts of people on that site and even other ones, but I do find okcupid to be the best designed/easiest to use.