Would you date a girl with gastric bypass scars?

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I already have scars from another surgery. I have a feeling that I will need to get gastric bypass surgery. What if I have scars on me from excess skin removal surgery?

If you’re nice and sweet....why not?

I'm assuming you want a male to reply to this so I don't know if my answer will help with anything. But I personally would date someone with scaring, no matter how they got it. Someone's personality speaks louder to me than their looks. Even so, I think scaring on someone is pretty hot.

I'm facing a sexist conundrum.

I assumed the headline to this was from a male, and I was about to come in all fire and fury and nuke that $#|+ from orbit.

Now I see it is the other side of the question and I'm torn.

It is bad for men to read it and think it is reasonable to feel that way, it isn't.
It is bad for women to read it and think they should feel that way, they shouldn't.
It is bad for you to write it and perpetuate the belief in yourself that that is an okay way to think. It isn't.

Confidence in yourself wins. EVERY. TIME.

Scars are the least important piece of you, don't let them get in your way.

Yes I would. Surgical scars don't bother me.

However, I would ask you to reconsider getting gastric bypass surgery because I don't think it's the most effective way to lose weight. My exgirlfriend had bariatric surgery that reduced the usable volume of her stomach to about the size of an orange. The trouble is, while she ate very small meals they were of such a high calorie density that she still gained weight. She also found ways of expanding the effective volume of her stomach, which made getting the gastric sleeve pointless.

I'm not saying you would do this but bariatric surgery does not produce guaranteed results, also it can be very inconvenient if you want to eat a normal sized meal socially.

There are alternative ways to lose weight. Firstly, there is Phentermine. I was on it a few years ago. It suppressed my appetite so that I was content to eat once per day. It also doubled the speed of my metabolism. It gave me a lot of energy so that I could exercise for longer before I got tired. I was losing a pound a day on Phentermine.

The trouble is, a prescription for Phentermine may be difficult to get. At the moment I don't have access to Phentermine which brings me to my second method, which I am using now.

Calorie counting. Start by Googling for a website with a BMR calculator. It will probably be the first result. Find out your BMR and then take two thirds of that number. Then, take the number of steps you do every day and divide that number by 20 (You can buy a pedometer for a few dollars or, many smartphones and wristwatches contain built in pedometers). Add that number on top of two thirds of your BMR and that gives you the number of calories you can eat that day.

For example. If your BMR is 1,500 than two thirds of that is 1,000. If you take 8,000 steps that day, 8,000 divided by 20 is 400 so add 400 on top of 1,000. This gives you 1,400 calories for that day (don't forget to count liquid calories such as coffee or juice).

If the next day, you take 12,000 steps, 12,000 divided by 20 is 600 so add 600 on top of 1,000 and for that day you can have 1,600 calories. You could either record them in a phone app or just keep a daily tally in your head.

Don't forget to periodically recalculate your BMR because as your weight changes, your BMR changes. I've been using this technique for a little while and I've already lost 2 kilograms.

I'm thinking maybe RetroGamer is right. It doesn't seem to be good for people who weigh less than 300 pounds.

Yes but she wouldn’t date me. So my opinion doesn’t matter. I care about personality and face looks. But maybe it’s just cause I’m such a low level man and so have low standards. Hope you find s guy though.

No.

But not because of the scars themselves, but because I generally think it's a completely ridiculous strategy for losing weight.

She probably wouldn’t date a guy from Oregon, since she lives in Vermont.

Well I didn’t mean personally her but even if I did live near her she wouldn’t date me based on the type of men she said in past she wouldn’t date.
A lot of aspie women don’t like aspie type men.

She’s sort of into fashion. She’s attractive. And she just might like a cuddly sort of big guy.

You would have more of a shot than me.

Yes, my third ex-wife had gastric bypass scars.

Nope. I don’t meet her requirements.

Has she actually told you her requirements?

I would expect she or anyone else wouldn't want to date someone who trolled for attention. It is unbecoming.

Why so? There's a tread in WD that says they do.