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Hello. I am still trying to find a gf. I am trying to lose weight and my face is looking better. I am getting a bit more confident but i still am a bit frightened going up to a girl and talking to her. What conservation could i start with and the first word.

My next question is are you married with kids or do you have a gf and planning on a wedding/kids and how did you meet her

Women aren't exotic species with mysterious ways, they are people like you. Get yourself out there, let friends/family know you're looking for someone, and to start with just try to find people with similar interests and get to know them. Just start conversations with a "Hi", or "Hello" or whatever, then ask them a little about themselves.

I Know. I am getting more confident you see but i'm still nervous about the talking. Where do i find the girl and is it in the street, or something?

No, not in the street, that's rarely welcome. What do you like to do? Any hobbies? Any hobbies you wanna take up? Maybe you can find someone who likes the same stuff and goes to the same places as you? Or maybe someone you know knows a a girl who you might get on with.

Another option is online dating. Get a good photo of yourself, write up a nice bio and have fun

I've tried online dating before and it never works. It was on Plenty of fish and i never had any replies.

I Like traveling, reading, doctor who, movies, going out to dinner, theater, bowling, concerts

I like alot of things. So maybe could you/somebody give me an example. And i'm also nervous about how do i know if she's single if she won't tell me or if we get on

What could i do if i like these things. Can you or anybody give me some advice

What could i do because i like those things alot. I love traveling and getting out. but i'm shy with going up to girls

What could i do. I am getting confident but i still don't know how to approach a girl. I know i sound stupid. i really don't want to be and i wish i didn't have autism. I Like traveling, movies, reading, family, tv but what do i do when out and what could be a good start point

You can go to a cricket match....

Especially in one of those 7-day matches, I'm sure people wouldn't mind talking to somebody.

Hey Cricketman

This may seem backwards but sometimes staying quiet or saying little and letting them begin the conversation is a good start.

You mentioned you like music, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SScWv0b1wVg
It's from the TV show Metalocalypse but has some advise if you look past the humour
(i've definitely made some of these mistakes)

Girls don't really like sport or don't go on their own. I'm 23. And even if i did how could i start the conversation.

Is it that I Haven't found my perfect match or is it she hasn't found me

I have a girlfriend & we would be married by now if we weren't disabled cuz it would screw up her benefits. I do not want kids thou. I met her on this forum. I made LOTS of post about being lonely & what I wanted in a relationship, what I had to offer a partner, & the way my personality is within a relationship. I'm very unique for an Aspie with those things. She messaged me & I gave her a chance. I relocated from Louisiana to Vermont to be with her.

Here's an idea, how about see if there are any of those groups where they talk about the latest books that are out, and they pick a book and read it, then discuss it. I don't know what they are called, but maybe one of you will know... If you're okay with group settings, you can do something like that to meet girls, then you guys can talk about books. My boyfriend was the same, really shy around women, but we went to the same church, and something about him attracted me, so I started coming early, just to talk to him. We talked about music, then, he asked me some things about me, pertaining to my disability, but I would start with more general things, since you don't know her at all, like, where are you from, what are your favorite authors, what types of music do you like, types of movies, who are your favorite actors, ETC. Stuff like that. Then, as time goes by, you both will get to know more about each other, and it will get easier.

I'm a female. Best opening line is to tell me something funny, which brings down my shields.