People don't date anymore, they "hook-up"

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Ever heard of this? Apparently people don't go out on dates any more, they go out with a group of people and have casual sexual encounters, usually fueled by alcohol ( a "hook-up"). If you do a search on google you will find dozens of articles about this, and the why's and how's of it. It seems pretty discouraging. Maybe this is partly why people with AS have a hard time with dating, because most people don't "date" or ask people out/get asked out, they go to a bar/club/party and have a 1-night stand at the end of it, or a "booty call". What do you people think about this? Here's one article about it, but there are others if you look on a search engine.
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/17540879/

I wish I was brave enough to just to what I wanted. I like someone so I talk to them. I want to say something then I say it.

All these articles about how people do things bore me. Bla bla bla, why should I care how other people do things, they're idiots !

Damn, I'm still not getting any...

I for sure don't want any part of this sort of lifestyle.

Is there no desire for mental and emotional companionship...? Is everyone's desire for a physical experience so strong that they don't even care about the person behind it (except on the most basic physical level)?

This is kind of disturbing to think about, that it is going on around me and I have no idea.

That's what happens when you don't go to bars...

This lifestyle appeals to me about as much as catching my face in a bear-trap. I see no appeal in the notion of passing around STDs like they're Skittles, or in having the majority of one's personal interaction with somebody else be limited to fluid exchange...

Look, it's been like this since I was young.
I don't know before that, but somehow I
would guess that the "free love" generation
weren't too big on going on dates either.

Maybe I'm weird, but I can tell a heck of
a lot about someone, when I first meet them.
Enough to be able to make a rational judgment
as to whether or not it's going to be a one-nighter,
or something serious AND enough to tell if they
are absolutely wrong for me (though I don't
always listen to the latter).

Anyhow, because of this, I don't find any particular
disadvantage to this method of meeting people,
especially since I've found that sex tends to
bind me closer with someone. In fact, I've tried
a 'date' and though there was some chemistry,
it just went nowhere. Pretty sure if we had
fallen into bed together, it would have lasted
for a couple of years.

hooking up should be easier than dating for aspies since hooking up requires less social interaction than dating does....

you just have to find someone who wants to hookup...

This is disgusting and pathetic.

Eh, the very concept of hooking up makes me queasy to my stomach. I'd never marry anyone who'd hooked up in the past, but hey, if that's what you wanna do, then go for it. Just don't be suprised if your past comes back 5 - 10 years later or more and bites you in the ass in the form of getting dumped. :\

I wouldn't have a problem with it if they weren't drunk at the time.