Being strung along or asperger's?

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She says and i believe she has Asperger's.
But i am becoming worried that she is not interesteted but just being gracious

I say, "You act uninterested in me. Is this true?"

I get no text back.

I say."i have to assume from your silence thst this is true, correct?"

She responds(!)
"Assumptions can be dangerous."

Lots of responses such as that.



Okay. fail on her part

I send poems, music, etc.
I wrute poems, put together a "relationship textbook" for us to give back and forth.
She has yet to produce anything but was excited about it. (Ok aspergers lack of social/romantic consideration for the other)

She hangs out with her ex of 2 years and complains how she doesnt like him..(ok Asperger's need for routine).
On and on like that.

She writes, "I miss you.,"

I live 10 minures away

I am becoming demoralized and feel i hang on to much to the "i miss you's"
And "assumptionsns can be dangerous" for evidence that she wants ne around.

I feel like constantly asking for a sign is me bullying her.

How much leeway or credence do i hve to impart?

I have ptsd and mdd i worry that i will be on my owng with this.

So ny aspe girl becomes the occassional 'booty call."

How much patience is too much?
She doesnt even seem to try?

Yeah, it definitely doesn't sound promising.

Hang on a minute. I know that Sabreclaw said it doesn't sound promising, but I'm not convinced. I need more info, because, perhaps, she isn't good with expressing herself in text... What I want to know is, how is she in expressing herself when y'all are together? What do you do, when you are together? What does she say to you? Is she affectionate? I need some more info first. Some people aren't texters, or phone people, but, completely different in person, so it could be that.

She is a big texter, facebooker, etc.
She is also very insecure and cultuvates thr attention if men very regularly (Tinder)
What sge woykd say in texts (I miss you) did not match up with her in person or elsewhere online. I told het today that I am moving on.
There just wasnt any effort from her to connect.

I gave her the benefit if the doubt telling her that i was asking for assistance from tbis group, my own friends, etc. She 'appeared' completely uninspired. So she is not for me- im too high maintenace

Im very loyal and devoted but, I do need a bone thrown to me now and again.
This was less likeky a s/sx if Aspergers than a just not caring but not wanting to hurt my feelings or to just keep me around like her Tinder dudes and ex boyfriend.

Okay, I got ya. Yeah, Sabreclaw probably was right then. She's definitely not interested, if she's still being this way. That was what I wanted to see. I too was trying to give her the benefit of the doubt, but I can't find any in that. I'm sorry about that. You're definitely right. It's not the AS, it's her just not being interested, but not wanting to come out and say so, it seems.