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Do you pm men?
Or do you consider it the traditional role of men to do the chasing?

If you're looking to meet people for dating purposes I would suggest avoiding using a screenname like "AngryAngryAngry"--it doesn't make the best first impression.

I have often made the first move with guys I liked, but I wouldn't do so with a person with a screenname like yours. It's kind of a giant red flag (if you're someone like me who likes to avoid people with anger issues.) Unless you're looking for angry women, because in that case it might actually work in your favour.

My current girlfriend PMed me after reading lots of my post on here but I think that's pretty rare. There's fewer single Aspie women in this section than Aspie men & some Aspie women are not interested in relationships with Aspie men because some Aspie men have posted very misogynistic stuff on this forum. My advice to meet someone here is to post alot about what you want win a partner, what your personality is like within a relationship & what you have to offer a partner. I was willing to relocate & I mentioned that in a lot of my post. I moved form Louisiana to Vermont to be with my girlfriend. Finding someone in your area may be a lot tougher. It may also help to reply to others posts trying to be supportive & not necessarily looking for a relationship with them. Posting on other sections will be good too.

Granted, it doesn't make a good impression, but he has made a post here

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in which he clarifies that he is "Pretty relaxed, friendly, happy, positive. (my user name is because of C++ compiler warning not to use gets & puts)." So it sounds as though the "AngryAngryAngry" was in reference to one isolated occasion, and is not a personality trait or a general outlook on life.

AngryAngryAngry, maybe you should put an explanatory disclaimer in your signature to let potential mates know that you are not angry all the time. Alternatively, you could make a "disclaimer" thread about your username, like I did with mine.

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Anyone who reads so much into a non-offensive forum username that can't ever be changed is not worth dating anyway. So, no big loss really.

OMFG, what the women would think of my username and avatar then??

I don't know what women think, but I just can't stop thinking about Doctor Who when you post.

I met my current girlfriend after she messaged me on here but I think it depends on the individual person. You need to be approachable and show an outward interest towards others, I think that is important.

Search through the "Getting to know each other" board and introduce yourself to anyone that you find interesting. Many people aren't actively participating on Wrong Planet but there are people that observe, you could miss out if you only show interest in regular users of the forum.

Hahahah, yeah. When I joined up I never thought about dating on here. Was just looking for my kinsmen.

Oh well, judge me on the name if you want, I probably wouldn't be interesting in someone that fickle.
Although, with Aspergers having meltdowns, perhaps it has more meaning here, and that is why I did address it in that post (thanks for pointing that out).

Thanks for the feedback on pming.

I was trying to be helpful--I'm not in your dating pool anyway, as I haven't been looking to date for over 10 years. I wouldn't consider you for a date no matter what your name is because I'm not considering anyone for dating. I'm actually happier single than I was when I was dating--it wasn't worth sorting through all the drama queens and egotists and bullies and people with psychological issues. Anyway, good luck!

Your username and avatar, Boo, makes me want to tweak your cheek.

Dr. Who? I think of him as Dr. Ruth.

I'm pretty much done with the PMing. I have not had any real good luck with it where Aspies are concerned. I think the PMing is a little too social for most Aspies to keep up with. I've come to the conclusion that this isn't really the place to make lifelong friends.

To me is much more of a red flag if someone calls a silly forum nickname a giant red flag, lol. It is not even foul language or anything.

It makes me think about Doctor Who too.

Its quite the contrary with me, except no one really wants to. I can talk an arm off if i get the perception someone is interested in me. Which rarely happens.

As for lifelong friends, well they can come from anywhere. But its only gonna happen when people want to.

That's a good thing, Doctor Who makes a lot of women go horny.