Experiment : a proof of how messed up online dating is.

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PS: Before you say that I have too much time on my hands, the whole thing doesn't take more time you spend on many of your long posts in L&D and P&R here on WP. And this experiment was done gradually in my free times. So husssh!!

So I conducted the experiment on like 15 girls on a dating app called Skout - it is basically like Tinder except you're given the chance to send first a "chat request" to profiles you select, if the chat request is accepted by the receiver you can continue chatting, if not, you get automatically blocked.

So these 15 girls were one who declined my chat requests from my real account with my real picture of me on the beach.

So I went over and created a second fake account, with a picture of a six-packed muscled big guy on the beach.
https://www.fitnessfreaks.com/media/ima ... 00x600.jpg

and I sent chat requests to these 15 girls. They all accepted the requests, every single one of them.

Then after just two lines of chat, i tell them "Look, I ll be honest, this isn't my real picture in the profile, this is me: " and send them my real picture, the same one used in my real account.

and they ALL responded with something like "Oh, you're cute / handsome, why are you using a fake picture in profile?"


and I replied to them all with the same remark "O really? But you did decline my real profile with this same exact photo that you are complimenting now."

Here, they all responded in the same manners (as if they are all programmed the same) their responses were so much on the defensive , bombarding me with lines and lines of justifications, something like "Don't think wrong of me, I am not shallow, I just sometimes randomly accept and decline chat requests....bla bla" , "I receive tons of chat requests, I probably declined you by mistake....bla bla" ...etc some even went far to say that the guy in the fake photo looks disgusting and I am actually more of their type ( Yeah right yet why they accepted the request from the fake profile while declining my real profile? ).

Obviously, no one of them was honest enough to say something like "I declined you because you are not hunk like the guy in the fake photo" or "I declined you because you didn't catch my eye like the guy in your fake pic " - I would have respected that, totally.

They all tried so hard to make it sound that it was an unintended decision and they are not shallow at all.

-So I simply ended the conversations with all of them in the same manner "Look, honestly I don't buy it, just be honest and say that you are seeking for model-like guys; it's ok, have a nice day".

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Few days later, I logged again in my real account, and to my surprise .... 9 out of 15 of these girls sent me chat requests, and the only way for them to be able to do so is removing me first from their block list first (because they declined my chat requests before, therefore I was added on their block list).

I accepted all their requests because I was curious to see why they went through all this trouble to chase my real account;

guess what?

They kept trying to convince me that they didn't intend the decline.



I kept chatting with them, and some even went flirty and bold O.o.

If it wasn't for my fake profile, no communication would have been possible with any of them!

PS: And oh btw, those girls don't look models at all, just regular girls you see everyday in the street.


So you see guys? You see how crazy and messed up the dating apps are?

Thanks for the picture I think I'll try using it.

Typical dating advice:

"Just be confident. Girl's like confident guys! No woman would want to date a negative person who hates themselves and feels unconfident in themselves!"

Evidence against this hypothesis:

A Tinder experiment posted on Bodybuilding.com Misc section by this guy here:

http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthrea ... =165905221

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Relevant:

In all honesty, this is some funny shit

I've been trying to talk about the importance of physical fitness on some of the other threads on here and a lot of people don't believe me. 90% of being attractive is being physically fit. It's really quite simple. Do strenuous exercise for 40 minutes a day for five days a week and cut your calories to about 1600/day and you will very quickly lose weight. Keep doing this for six months to a year (or more if you are morbidly obese) and then adjust your calorie count upward once you reach your goal weight. If you want to be more muscular, start a weight training program at a serious gym (Not Planet Fitness or any of the other pathetic joke chain gyms). Then, enjoy all the women who are now really attracted to you.

It's a simple process, but it's difficult to do, because losing weight and getting fit is really uncomfortable and sometimes really painful. You have to have really strong will power to do it. But it is absolutely worth it.

Being attractive gives anybody an edge, male or female. No surprise there.

What it really bothered me from this experiment is the lack of honesty, and the thought of me will naively believe their non-convincing justifications.


This is one conversations on whatshapp with one of these girls, it's the only one in English; this girl is literally chasing me and checking whenever I go online on the Skout app.








Is there any psychological explanation in this? Are they driven by guilt trip now? Or them being associating me with the fake six-packs guy photo even after seeing my real picture?

What is going on here? And why it's the same pattern of reaction in all?\

This is so f*****g disturbingly amazing!!

Interesting. I think the bottom line is that you shouldn't really expect anyone to be honest with you, especially if you haven't earned their trust, which might even involve being physically attractive to them, among other things.

and what's funny, that even though they're chasing me - I am not interested in any of them for a serious date.

I just can't, I know they didn't find me attractive enough in the first friction of second they same my photo hence why they declined me in the first place - and I know that they crave for something entirely different.

Imagine if I marry one of them and my hypothetical child asks me "how did you meet my mom?" - what would I tell them?
"Oh, your mom ignored me first on a dating app and declined my chat request - but then she replied to my fake account with the six-packed guy photo, but after showing her my real picture there of the same one I used in the profile she declined - she decided to unblock my real profile and to continue chatting with me and even gave me her phone nb"

What a meaningful lesson of love, depth and honesty.

Something that started that wrong can't work out anyway.

When you look like the guy on the left, you're often stuck in a situation in which those seemingly trivial measures aren't much of an option, especially not before you get too old to enjoy any results by dating.