Ended things with a girl

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She liked me alot and we got along so very well. We had a lot of differences but I had a lot of respect for her and liked a lot of things about her as well. But the biggest issue out of the differences was how much she liked guns. Dysthymia and guns aren't a good mix. When I ended things, she chewed my ass out for getting involved in her daughter's life and making her go through another man walking out on her. Five minutes later she was going on about how much she liked me and that I was the first person she had someone babysit so she could go on a date in like two years. That date was the same day I ended things and her daughter is almost 3. We dated for nearly a month, texting and/or saw each other everyday and I did spend large amounts of time with her daughter because she invited me over. I always tried to do the right thing with this girl, and other than fooling around the first night we realized we liked each other, I refrained from sex until I was sure I could be with her. I don't really feel guilty for anything, but it was very hard to hear all the things she had to say. I sat there patiently, didn't interrupt and waited until she was done before I spoke. Each time, she calmed down and spoke nicely, then work herself up to blaming me and victimizing herself again. This lasted for at least an hour before she had nothing left to say. I did this cause I know how much rejection hurts. I don't feel guilty but I'm feeling really bad.

You don't owe her anything. She sounds like a user. Don't be too hard on yourself.

It seems to me that there's a contradiction between the "I refrained from sex until I was sure I could be with her" and dumping her after a month because she likes guns.

^I was never sure so we never had sex. A mutual friend thought we would be a great match and she is super pretty so I wanted to see if I could like her, but I didn't feel that spark.

This was probably the wrong forum to post in but I'm not sure which would be best.

The first time I went over to her place I met her kid and she kissed me in front of her. I reciprocated her behavior then she had to blame me for putting her kid through emotional trauma because I couldn't be her boyfriend. Most people would be mad right? She blamed me for something she initiated as ok. I don't get angry like most people, I just sink into dysthymic depression and feel bad for little while.

Maybe she was hurt about being dumped & acted like you leaving was hurting her daughter emotionally because she was trying to cover up the fact that she was hurting. Or she was trying to pressure you into staying. Either way it was your rite to break up with her & you tried to be considerate about it.