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Is phoning and / or meeting the person who you were dating ever a good idea? Lets say that you ended the relationship and the other party was pretty angry and confused, is it better to just move on and not contact them again?

If you are on good terms with them and can both mutually agree on a friendship, then that's fine. But if the person was very angry, still is.. I wouldn't think it would be a good idea.. I would say then to move on.

Ever? Of course. The question I have is how
one could be close to someone, and NOT maintain
some sort of contact.

when the relationship I was in (or the closest thing I had to one) ended we never spoke again and haven't since...
I have moved on, it hurt because she broke my heart

Don't you hate those "it depends" answers? But that's the only one that fits here. As much as you may want to maintain communication or friendly relations with someone you've been romantically involved with, if the relationship ended badly the best thing can be to just let it be and move on. Easy to say, I know. But it all depends, in some cases if the anger which came out of the breakup wasn't too much, or you just made a few regrettable remarks out of being hurt, there's always room to mend some fences and be friends. But you need to ask if that's all you really want, or do you really want to re-kindle the relationship? If you try without a clear understanding of what you're after, you can end up causing both of you even more pain.

it actually does depend.

the first girl that I dated at 17 we broke up and it took me 5 months to talk to her again.

It really does depend, actually. It's hard to really give good advice over a forum in anyway other than generalizations when you aren't there and don't know all the details involved.

In the end, you'll have to do what you think is best for your particular situation..