Friends boyfriend is bitter towards me

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22 Sep 2016, 10:37 am

So I have this awkward situation where when I was on okcupid I was talking to this guy. He was nice but a bit crass and grumpy. Even so we got along and I gave him my mobile number.

But soon after this I started speaking to this other guy who I clicked with and really wanted to talk to everyday. When it became clear that I fancied the second guy I apologised and told the first guy straight away.

So the second guy and I got together and after a few months my friend was sad about being single. She had a similar sense of humour to guy number 1 so I introduced them.

Originally guy 1 was really thankful and said it was the best gift.

That was 2 and a half years ago. Everytime we meet up with them (myself, my friend, my fiancee (guy 2), and my friends boyfriend (guy 1)) guy 2 always makes a point that he spoke to me first.

Even at our engagement party in front of a large group he commented on how I spoke to him first and how it could've been different. It was really awkward and I didn't know how to respond.

I don't understand why he is doing this

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22 Sep 2016, 11:16 am

Alliekit wrote:

Because he likes you more than his girlfriend, or maybe it's just the old "the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence" thing. But this is not only disrespectful to you and your boyfriend (I can't believe he did it in front of people at your engagement aprty) but mostly to his own gf. He should really learn some manners.

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22 Sep 2016, 11:18 am

jeez, nevermind....working overtime like a mule.

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22 Sep 2016, 11:19 am

True. No manners.

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22 Sep 2016, 6:08 pm

It just feels really unfair for my friend. She has struggled wit guys and I'm worried that my introduction might not be good for her.

Like if he is being like that does that mean he might hurt her?

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22 Sep 2016, 8:16 pm

Alliekit wrote:

Like if he is being like that does that mean he might hurt her?

Maybe, we don't know him though. Does she ever scold him or ask what he means when he says such things?

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22 Sep 2016, 10:33 pm

Better yet, hasn't she considered dumping him or something?

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22 Sep 2016, 10:47 pm

Spiderpig wrote:

Better yet, hasn't she considered dumping him or something?

Right? He is treating her like second best, by bringing up the fact that he could have been with her friend, constantly. He is apparently lamenting the fact that he isn't.
That's disrespectful to both women!

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22 Sep 2016, 11:38 pm

I dont know
I'd never do that to my gf though

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23 Sep 2016, 12:28 am

1st Time: Friendly laughter, and a joking "Dude, nobody cares!"
2nd Time: Friendly laughter, still joking but with a little more emphasis. "Seriously dude, noooooobody cares."
3rd Time: Take your female friend aside and tell her that the guy is being a creeper and you're really uncomfortable.

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23 Sep 2016, 1:18 am

The guy has a girlfriend and yet he is focusing on you? Clearly he's not all that interested in his girlfriend. You should talk to her about how this guy keeps making these comments.

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23 Sep 2016, 4:16 am

I feel kind of awkward mentioning it to her cause she is very geeky and has said to me loads she doesn't think she can get anyone else. Even though I told her that's not true she seems happy to just have someone.

Plus they are living together so it makes it more complicated.

Incendax I laughed it off the first time cause my fiancee and his gf wasn't there.

The second time I made a mention of the fact that he was lucky that I found my fiancee cause that meant he found my friend

Since its happened nearly everytime we see them and I just like make an awkward laugh

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