amitié amoureuse

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Hello

I'm interested in your thoughts: is an amitié amoureuse a sustainable relationship? Does it always escalate into a romantic partnership or will the friendship be lost when the romantic feelings subside?

Does anyone have experience of having romantic feelings for a friend but happily loving them from afar? If the relationship ends do they stay in your thoughts?

If you have to say it in French to make it sound good, then there's probably a good reason why it sounds bad.

Yes real relationship, but i'm afraid you're wrong, it's not a relationship that necessarily involves sex. A romantic relationship yes...

Any answers to the questions posted?

There's a guy here who likes that sort of thing---loving from "afar." He's a Swedish guy. He has theories about "neuro-divergent" flirting and all that. It would be interesting if you had a discussion with him.

I, personally, don't feel good when I have romantic/sexual feelings for somebody, yet cannot consummate them. It's quite frustrating for me.

I can understand the feeling of "anticipation," though. I can understand how it can be thrilling for one who is more patient than me.

It depends upon how one defines "amoureuse."

I, myself, think that it doesn't have to involve actual sex--but I believe the THOUGHTS of it must be present.

The thoughts are present, on both sides. He's married and neither of us wants more from the other, or feels good about how our relationship has developed, but it seems there is no gentle way back from the (admittedly frustrating) romantic zone. I'd like a straightforward friendship if we can manage it.

Admittedly, I would find this sort of situation difficult.

This sort of thing happens all the time. It's almost an inevitable thing with humans.

It's very hard to identify whether/when to walk away from the relationship. I want us to be pals, but communication can be difficult enough never mind sorting out this emotional mess. But you're right, we're just people being people and sharing an experience.

Then I am in one too - except we're both single.