Does she like me or have I been friend zoned?

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It was my birthday yesterday, and I put something on my snap story about my birthday and the Vikings. A girl I know pretty well that I go to college with snapped me back and said "Happy birthday bud! I hope you have a great day". Now we have talked a lot for a point but there was never quite the emotional connection. So my question is that do you think when she said "Bud", have I been friend zoned or do you think she was trying to say she likes me?

Don't overthink it.

Clearly she cares enough to wish you a happy birthday.

Now try and talk to her the next time you see her.

How well do you know her?

You could try and ask her out depending on how well, but we can't suggest it to you if we aren't sure first.

We haven't seen each other this year yet, but I was on the floor above her and we talked a lot when we saw each other or texted each other and tried to meet up this summer but long story short, it didn't work out. We did talk for a bit after she said happy birthday to me.

Way too soon to tell. Try to hang out with her. Regardless, I wouldn't think too much into it.

Yeah she said I should stop at her place (an apartment with her & her friends) sometime so that's a start so maybe I'll stop over there after the Vikings game or something.

Ask her out just the two of you. That'll tell you.

We tried to arrange something this summer but it fell through because I was busy a lot and difficult to make room in my schedule. So when I see her possibly this weekend, I should be able to tell.

Oh and it should be noted she doesn't know I have autism, which is more Asperger's at this point but the diagnosis is for Autism because I was not supposed to be very high functioning later in life.

I don't think that needs to come up - she's just wanting you to come over and do something. She must want to be around you. I wouldn't even bring it up.

Given the fact that she called you "bud", your romantic chances with her are absolute zero, but she's not friend-zoning you, either. She's treating you like a real friend, or a respected acquaintance at least. Your best bet is to respond in kind, and put romantic pursuit on the back burner. After all, good friends who respect you, even if they're casual friends, are few and far between, especially for us aspies.

The friend zone, as we know it, implies some sort of misleading or taking advantage of someone, with the friendship being not genuine. Your lady friend isn't acting anything like that; she's being honest and friendly to you. (Usually, the woman friend-zones the man, but the reverse can happen too.)

That doesn't mean anything.


As far as her interest level goes...it's too soon to tell. Like Angie said, try to get her to spend time alone with you (away from her friends). If she's ok with it, you might have a chance, if she gets weird about it, or makes up some lame excuses, she's not interested.

It's homecoming weekend so this weekend will be difficult for any sort of alone time, but I might stop over on Sunday night just to say hi, and we'll play it by ear.