So what do i do now

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Ok, im a member of Aspie affection, reecently, there was a new user who live in my country, i read her profile and saw her picture, shes beautful, talented and we share a lot of interests, so i took the dive and messaged her.

That was 4 days ago, she has nore replied, and shes looked ay my profile since then.

I don;t mean to sound like im rushing things, im just confused as what this means and how i proceed, as i don;t want ot bombard her wwith messages and scare her off. But what should id do next?

I would give her a bit more time.She has either decided that you two would not be a good match or needs more time to process it or has a lot going on in RL and is not able to give the time and energy to getting back to you yet.Not being psychic,could be any of the above....you just have to wait it out.After a week,you could ask her if she is interested in getting to know you better or not...direct is best.

I hope she replies, im not good with introductions and i tried to be polite, shes 20 and im 18, =) and if she does reply, will be overjoyed

I think if people don't reply when you send them a message on a dating site it's best to just let it go.

Topher,
Don't harass her, give her some space until she's ready.
Doing so will prolong the probability of you finding happiness.

If you do send her a bunch of messages, she will reject you and leave you with a disappointed mind.

It's annoying to be sure, but part of the dating game (and I use the term literally) is sometimes for the girl to play "hard to get". So to simply give up would be interpreted as a lack of real interest. At the same time, you don't want to come on too strong and run her off. I'd wait until a week or so has passed and send her another message. Who knows, maybe she didn't get the first one or is having trouble working up the courage to contact YOU. It's walking a fine line at times, and personally I hate all the games and beating around the bush, but that's the world we live in.

There's no telling as to why she hasn't responded. I can think of some possibilities, some reasons I haven't responded, but they won't necessarily be all that relevant as I'm male.

She could be interested, but paranoid, or something along those lines.

She could be uninterested.

She could be interested to some degree, but thinking about it.

I'm with madscientist on this issue. It could simply be that she hasn't worked up the courage to reply. Regardless, waiting a week, sending a second message, I don't think that's unreasonable. If she then still doesn't respond, well, I guess that'd be a definite answer for you.

I bet it's Fiz, isn't it?