Should I FB message someone I saw on Tinder?

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Here's the deal:

There was a person I spotted on Tinder who I really liked, and who had a mutual friend. For those of you who know Tinder, there is like,dislike and Super Like. I wanted to Super Like her, but I was out of Super LIkes for ten more hours. So I put my phone away for the night resolving to do so in the morning when I could. Well overnight my tinder refreshed/reset, and I lost her profile before I could! I cannot find it now on Tinder.

However, I was able to find her on FB thanks to that mutual friend.

The question is: Do I write her? I mean, I can't find her on Tinder anymore so it's either this, or nothing at all. But is that a total non starter? Do I explain why I'm writing? Or do I lie and say I found her profile through some totally innocuous means? I really want to connect with this person. But how???

Try to look past the feature of some app, and rather think about the best way to communicate with her.

Real life doesn't ration super likes, that is called 'gamification' in the industry.

Maybe asking the mutual friend or a resalable message. Not too long, or like you are following them around.

Don't lie, just don't be too full on to begin with.

I really don't know anything about dating, but PERHAPS if you talk with her on FB it'd be better not to mention that you saw her on Tinder and then looked for her profile elsewere. I don't think it's so weird, but it might scare her, maybe. Hopefully someone can confirm/deny this.

Only contact her through Tinder first. If she invites you to be Facebook friends, only then can you contact her on Facebook.

Have you tried Bumble? It's similar to Tinder except that it only allows women to make the first contact.

Just say what happened.

Say that you found her interesting, and that you want to get to know her a little better.

Apologize if she didn't want to be contacted via Facebook.

In my experience it's a bad idea to contact a stranger on Facebook with a message like that. Also, Facebook actually discourages the accepting of friend requests and private messages like that from people you don't know. If you do it one too many times, people may report you and Facebook can remove your account.

I wouldn't risk it.

You can message her and engage in a conversation regarding her profile or you can choose to remain unknown to her.

If she is offended at someone taking the initiative and showing interest in her profile in a civil manner, you will know that she isn't the right girl for you.

I'm not sure the best advice to give. I've had some people do this to me - look me up on other websites after seeing me somewhere else, and it comes across as very creepy to me. I would say, keep going on Tinder until you find her profile again.

He mentioned that they shared a mutual friend, that is classed as networking in a social circle.