How do I approach a short-term relationship?

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Even though I haven't had a job (I do volunteer once every while but that's it), I was thinking about taking things short-term and forget long-term relationships for now. I really want to have at least some sexual experience. But how do I approach it? I have a POF account, but whenever I send a message, literally nobody ever replies. I think I might do or look some way that turns people off. Could it be my thick glasses, for example?

Are you specifically asking for or showing on your profile that you're looking for a "short term relationship"? I think that might turn many people off. I think more standard is to either look for a relationship and let whatever happens naturally, happen. Or, if you're looking for sex/friends with benefits only, be upfront and honest about that (but also be prepared to message many, many, many people before getting responses.) Maybe try Tinder?

Ugh, I tried Tinder before, I had it for a whole week and literally got no matches. I think girls think I'm ret*d.

What's a short term relationship or causal relationship? I see these on most women's profiles .

I would interpret casual as mainly for sex and short term for a chilled out relationship in which you both don't have to spend the rest of your life's together, almost like a fling.

I always put short and long term on my profile so as not to seem desperate

The Short-term thing is....mostly a male fantasy.

It's not easy to find women willing for it in the first place.

And it's even harder to find women who are willing to do it, yet not wanting to make it a long term after few times.

Generally-speaking, women are not psychologically willing for it..

At least this is in my experience.

Most women here have that in their profile
That or looking but nothing serious.

Isn't that a fwb?

Chilled out relationship?

What if I want long term?

Like I said it's just how I interpret it. Like casual is sort of fwb

Chilled out as in you don't expect to marry the person you meet or have a relationship for a long time. Often short term does develop into long term if you meet the right person.

I never intended to get an Ltr because I just wanted to experience a relationship ship but I'm here 3 years later engaged. Sometimes it just happens

Do it like the Donald, just go up and grab some p***y. It'll be the shortest-term relationship you'll ever have...guaranteed.