Imagining an ideal partner

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What would your dream erotic/romantic partner be like?

Thoughtful answers and more than one answer encouraged

(People in relationships may want to pass on this one lest they make their soulmates jealous)

Mine would love to travel, and very romantic and likely as hypersexual as me and willing to experiment in that way.

This might as well be it, (posted this in another thread):

Someone who's able to take care of them self, as well as having a great sense of humor, is very compassionate, understanding, patient, and intelligent.

Easy...

A Redhead Multi-Billionarie Supermodel Jedi Drow Avariel with multiple doctorates in Medicine, Chemistry and Physics, a luxury starship (with a top-of-the line hyperdrive, of course) and a great sense of humor... It wouldn't hurt if she shared my love of espresso, either...

... Anyway, I'm sure there are lot of those women hanging around at the local bar..

Well obviously somebody understanding and accepting of my particularities, someone committed to personal growth and is a supportive partner, probably someone with a more cynical/contrarian world view or at least tolerant of those type of views, basically someone to share and do things with, I don't think it would take much honestly which is kind of scary in a way.

also must be 420 friendly and like spicy food

I don't have one type. But from experience it would either be:
Someone innocent - when a cute adult says "I don't understand why people think sex is so important"/"I dislike sex" it makes me want to dirty them despite me having no experience and not understanding it either. I want to say "let's discover why" and take the lead (it happened to me twice, first time I didn't have the guts to make a move and it stayed all in my head, second time it ended in cybersex).
Sexy friend - a friend that will flirt with me physically more and more, slowly getting me used to touch and we somehow end in bed without any questions said, just because the touch feels good. (It happened once, unfortunately in the end the guy asked "Do you want to have sex?" in the wrong moment and my straightforward "No" somehow killed our friendship - we never met again. And I didn't have the guts to explain that I did want to have sex with him but I was drunk and overloaded so didn't want to have sex at that moment and didn't have any energy to sugarcoat my answer).

And it definitely wouldn't be:
Someone who constantly asks "Do you want to be kissed?" or "Am I crossing a line?". It happened twice and even if I was feeling good at that moment the questions killed the mood and made me reconsider - if I start thinking I will find faults due to anxiety awakening so don't make me think, just do - if I don't like what you do I will move away/shrug or tell you not to do that).
Someone who tells me what to do, says bad things about me and is intolerant (a guy like that was picking on me once - we were physically compatible to the degree his casual touch gave me goosebumps and I would probably allow him to do anything - but I hated his personality).

Honest, not stubborn, passionate about their dreams, understands my need for alone time, able to listen to me when I need them to.

Also, preferably an extrovert.

And a love for video games and/or music is a definite plus.

Ideal can get so specific...

Physically, someone early 30's late 20's, white (paler the better- short of albino), blonde/redhead, under 5 10, probably between 170-230 lbs, even more depending on where it's at... and definitely a nice ass, thick thighs and a pretty, round face. Someone who looks kinda cute and girly but in a not totally polished way and doesn't really act that girly.

Someone with a comparably bizarre, raunchy, disjointed humor and quick on their feet with comments and quips, because I am... someone observant and analytical, articulate. Intelligent, but more in a common sense way as opposed to a book smart way, someone with very good self awareness and the ability to share themselves. Loyal, someone with a friend or two, but a few close ones as a opposed to a friend collector. Or at least some displayed ability to maintain a meaningful long term emotional connection with someone on their 'resume'.

Someone who's as into sex as I am and has a dirty creative fun mind. And gotta be able to give good oral and really like it...

A big pot smoker, someone who likes math metal and deathcore, though not exclusively, and loves shows of such, loves camping, hiking, outdoors in general and cooler/colder weather. At least tolerant of watching football and baseball, but preferably actually into at least one or the other. A girl with a pretty signing voice of a more rocky/metal variety is super sexy.

I wish such a person existed... I'd be pumped with like 60% of that lol... I guess I'm sorta picky then huh? Prbably shouldn't be

Aged 16-25.

Female.

I like her for her, emotionally and physically.

She likes me for me, emotionally and physically.

Good at conversation and enjoys talking to me.

Lives close enough to see at least one day a week, preferably two.

Takes care of her health and appearance as much as 90% of the general population.

Looks completely ordinary, plain and average. Looks like 90% of the population.

Can be slightly underweight or slightly overweight, but any worse than this is unacceptable for me. I am fit and healthy and desire the same, but am fine with her just being a normal, healthy weight. If she is either under or overweight, has to be making an effort to become a healthy weight.

Is not mean/cruel/a criminal/etc.

Can have mental health issues, so long as it's something like Anxiety disorders, Depression, Phobias, Night Terrors, Insomnia, Autism Spectrum, Schizoid Personality Disorder, etc.

Not things like Bipolar, Sociopathy, BPD, learning difficulties, etc. Been there, don't that, never again.

Can have a physical disability such as wheelchair bound, scholiosis, etc. as long as it isn't any clearly visible or distinct severe deformities or health issues that require constant medical attention and being bound to hospital beds which would prevent her from living her life and me from seeing her as often as I'd like to.

Can't be any severe physical disabilities that mean she can't function properly e.g. dress herself, etc.

I do not mind mild to moderate facial deformities and was even attracted to a young woman I saw on the bus that clearly had one. As long as it's not severe it's fine.

If her family is bad/cruel/abusive/etc. she doesn't feel the need for me to ever meet them or have to spend time around them, because I wouldn't ask the same of her because I hate a lot of my family too.

If she doesn't want me meeting any of her friends, I'd be fine with this too as long as she does not demand I introduce her to mine.

Dark brown eyes, dark brown/black hair, light brown/tan skin, combination of black and white features, 1/4 or half black.

Slightly less than the average height for a young Aussie woman in the age 16-25 bracket.

Laidback, tomboyish, funny, easy to talk to, silly, goofy, playful, a little annoying/obnoxious, a little sporty, clumsy, loud, warm and loving, kind, sweet, shy, quiet, fun.

I already met this girl, and the double edged sword is we both used to have a crush on each other but she's now my good friend.

Ahahahaha. Wahhahaha

Yes, and she's the only one that ever fell into that category I've ever met. Oh well.

Just remember that's my ideal. Dream woman.

I don't consider my standards high.

All I really want is average appearance or slightly less than average, I like her for her, she for me, she lives close enough to see at least one day a week so no long distance, takes care of herself as much as anyone else does, healthy weight. Age 16-25. Semi-decent mental health, like me. I've already dated some pretty messed up girls and it's not good for me, the negativity.

Otherwise, nothing else really matters to me. Race doesn't matter, height, money, etc.

I don't care if she's a high school dropout bald Malaysian Monk who can barely speak English with a mildly deformed face and is wheelchair bound. Whatever. If I'm attracted to her and she to me, we can make it work.

Exactly how ideal are we talking? I've got a pretty rough idea of the "perfect" girlfriend, but she only exists in a ridiculous fantasy world.

Thanx everyone for sharing -- this is so fascinating.

Okay, my turn. Three types:

1) A man or woman who could dominate me. Someone more confident, more efficient, practically smart, able to organise my life better than me. Fun, wild as I am. No inhibitions, no morality issues, a partner in crime. Willing and able (rare) take me like a slave in bed. Sexually voracious. No monogamy s**t. I f*****g surrender. Let's travel everywhere and get into trouble together. Oh and one more thing --- said person has to be trustworthy and loyal enough they aren't going to walk off with my things or abandon me at a dangerous moment screwing up my life. That last part makes this a total fantasy which is not going to happen.

2) A man (realistically) with a good income who I can control. Must have needs I can fulfill which he can't easily get otherwise which probably means extreme or kinky sex drive plus slight looks social skills and/or confidence issues. Doesn't have to love me and probably better if he doesn't need me to pretend to love him. High intelligence a most def and shared special interests ideal. Needs to be able to put up with my aspie s**t tolerate monologuing and leave me alone most of the time. Must not be needy or clingy. I already have one of these but he'll die or retire eventually so Ill need to replace him

3) A cute crazy girlfriend (average looks and creative attitude is fine). I have a friend whose borderline personality disorder whose not currently available but she is way ridiculous fun and I want one. Anyway yeah someone who is selfish, spontaneous and impulsive but ridiculously emotional to warm up the room. Someone kinky as f**k who brings out my dominant side. Someone to do lots of drugs with. She can love me if she wants because playing along would be totally worthy it. Slightly antisocial but not so much I have to fight for control would be perfect. This one would be an expense and take lots of time dealing with her s**t but I'm good at that and it's something I could provide to keep her happy.

Somebody very intelligent, independent and perceptive. I'm asexual so I wouldn't expect monogamy on their part. A relationship where we could dip in and out of each other's lives, enjoy things together, and enjoy and respect time apart. I think from the outside such a relationship would seem casual, but the intellectual connection would make it very real in its own way. I need somebody perceptive because I can't talk about my emotions, so having an intuit who doesn't bombard me with emotional questions or expect lots of discussions about our feelings would be great. They would also be very ambitious, and hold themselves to a high standard in all areas of their lives. I really respect people who work hard and try to better themselves. A dry sense of humour would be a plus, as that is my preferred brand. Honestly I'm not fussed about age or gender, if we have an attraction we have an attraction.

Growing up I always liked the Macbeth/Lady Macbeth dynamic, perhaps because I could appreciate the practical and intellectual goals of such a relationship better than the sexual or romantic ones. Not that it worked out for them but still. I got a playmobil fort for my 8th birthday, I used to play Macbeth with it all the time .