What should I plan for going out with this girl?

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In the high-functioning ASD social group we meet every Thursday night, I started talking to a girl and I suggested that we should hang out sometime. She wants me to be able to schedule and plan a week in advance (she works 5 days a week). What do you think I should plan? I haven't really made it clear that I'm interested in dating, even though I'm not exactly sure if I should be asking about that. I never really talked that much with her either. However, I actually have her number.

Did you ask her what she likes?

Not really, but I probably should.

Why bother? I find that the key to a successful relationship is not knowing a damn thing about your partner. I've been married for 20 years now, and I honestly can't even remember my wife's name. We've never been happier!

It will be wonderful when it's spontaneous.

Good luck.

I wouldn't "ask her", I'd pick something I think would be genuinely interesting to both. That way it will be natural and spontaneous rather than feeling forced and ritualistic.

There's really no point on going on a date if you hate what you're doing and are just 'going through the motions', and I don't think most girls will find it attractive if the guy isn't even genuinely enjoying it, and seems like he's making himself do it.

How do I do that? What are ideas that I could plan for us?

For the first couple of dates, people recommend not going to a movie because you don't really interact with each other. Something that makes an impression like miniature golf or go-carts or a nature walk would be appropriate. Just don't pick something that's out of your price range; be realistic so you don't set unrealistic expectations. You can always go out for coffee or something if you prefer not having an actual outing.