Saw someone I use to date in the news the other day..

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Went out with him back in HS he was so quiet and kind, I kind of got the sense he had a rough childhood maybe grew up in a bad home, I tried asking him about it but he kind of brushed it off told me one or two things. I recall he used to bake me cookies and cakes he wanted to be a cheif but he'll be in jail for life though...just grateful I was never alone with him
He killed two women, (not going into much details for privacy) I was shocked people close to me were surprised too as we all knew him and gone out with him as groups, and he seemed so kind...makes me scared to even date again I guess you really don't know people. (I hope no one thinks I'm trolling just wanted to share this as I'm still in shock and don't have anyone to talk to)

Yow, that's a new one to me, go do nice things for yourself or friends & try to chill out. <- I'm serious there. I do however have some knowledge of reconciling inner peace with some very dangerous people; one's own alertness is reason enough to feel some security.

edit: Thread is public, PM works for nitty gritty stuff.

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i don't think you're trolling. trolls retract from this kind of f****d up trauma.
anybody can be a bad somebody. i have not dated killers but bad people (i felt like i was dead a lot of the time anyways).

i'm told i have c-PTSD from when i was a kid and what is basically the psychiatric equivalent of "female hysteria" without being so acute about it anymore. i think i'm fine. f****d up but fine, everyone's got some f****d up s**t and this is mine.

it is scary to not read people right, and this guy seems unemotional af. at least its easier to read the overtly emotional ones. i learned to read those early on but somehow could not learn to read the voids until more recently.

being nice and quiet could mean anything.

in my case it means i'm always shy, sometimes insecure, and usually unable to express myself. killing people means something entirely different. you have every rational reason to feel how you do, but i hope its not a lasting or debilitating pain. if it is, seek support in friends/family/cohorts. obligatory mention to see a therapist. strengthen yourself any way you can.

be careful, but don't be so scared to date again. i am not qualified to give advice, but i don't think most humans are evil. gosh i hope not. also, dude is gone now. put away. so that's good.

And I thought I had it bad with the crazies on dating sites....