What to do with feelings of romantic love

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My body or more specifically my brain is desperate for a hit of those early stage love chemicals. See in the past it was so desperate it kicked in for any suitable girl whether they liked me or not. I have to show restraint now and tell myself not to think about the various girls I make acquaintance with who I like because they are not showing any signs of wanting me.

But this love feeling is a drive like hunger. It's the same feeling I get when I want to eat but it's telling me I want to find a girl to have nice thoughts about and there isn't one so what am I supposed to think about?

I could make someone up but coming up with believable people characters is literally the hardest task for me. I might never be able to do it because of autism, the characters I come up with are always so boring even by my standards. Thinking about them is not going to give me any relief.

Should I try thinking about celebrities? I know it's very common for NTs but I really don't care about or crush on any celebrity.

I can obviously think about how I might find love and I do a lot but it's not the same as my drive to think about a specific person.

Why won't anyone answer this?

I think you have to start loving yourself before you can love someone. For example do you go out places such as the cinama, museums, shopping, do you go to any clubs. I suppose you and me won't find anyone if we are just sat behind a computer screen feeling sorry for ourselfs

Easier said then done i know but if you put yourself in situations surley me and you both will one day find someone

Sorry, man, I got nothin. I think romantic feelings are the result of at least a millennia of conditioning by society dating all the way back to medieval codes of chivalry. Ancient Greeks and probably other ancient civilizations placed a higher value on same sex relationships and "brotherly love." My SO is my best friend and in many ways like a sister. Intimacy and romantic feelings are secondary to that (though we lack for nothing in either regard).