Importance of your name?
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4 years ago I read a newspaper article about a study where they tested men's and women's responses to the attractiveness of a face with a name under it, and there was a noticeable effect on the attractiveness of the same face depending on the name.
I had forgotten about that article until I found this article on cracked. (Someone has posted some links from there in this forum)
Things Men Do To Get Laid That Science Says Turn Women Off
You may notice that the #1 thing that is listed is having the wrong name.
At first this sounds absolutely ridiculous. Is it possible that ordinary people can be so f*****g stupid that they make judgements based off a person name?
Then I remembered that this is ordinary people we are talking about, of course they can be that f*****g stupid.
Keep an open mind and think about it, is it possible that your subconscious is tuned to put excessive significance towards the name of a person?
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Yes. I was watching the Discovery Channel last night on "The Science of Sexual Attraction" and there's a lot of factors - some which seem like nonsense:
Women's cycles, the scent of men, the timbre of the male voice, the waist to hip ratio, money, masculinity, you're own looks (5's attract 5's), etc.
A person's name can say a lot about a person - it's just a matter of context. I just happen to have a good name w/ a pretty nice latin background - but had no justification in how my parents choose it.
Rhapsody: It has to be kind of both. As a parent you have a special drive to give the child a good name. I guess the motivation can be different, but the name is instinctively felt as important. This gives the parents the necessary focus to pick the "right" name for the child.
Everyone has a bond with their own name, and when a person has done major shifts in their lives and with themselves, it is not unusual to also change the name so it "matches" the new you. I changed my last name, because I had such a strong knowing that the one I was born with didn't fit me anymore. I think the last name represent heritage, and first name represent you as a person in this life.
If each names didn't have a stereotype (or didn't resonate to a certain personality), it wouldn't be possible to intuitively name the child with a matching name. All the names would then be given at random.
I think of it more like when you are born, you are born with a unique personality. Some matches the parents, some is completely unique. The name you are given is a match to you when you are born. Like two tuning forks vibrating together. But as the child grow up and maybe changes, so must the name change to still "fit" the person.
But instead of looking at the names as stereotypes, I look at then as unique frequencies. Like different colors or different sounds, or different temperatures. Take your pick.
And these frequencies have different effect and different roles on the society, just like different colors have different effects on nature. So you could say that society is shaped by the name people is using, just like the name people use is shaped by the personality of the person.
When it comes to the relation between attractiveness and the name of the person, I believe the face express unconsciously your relation to your life. Your face, in all its facets, express your feelings toward life. And your name is a pure symbolic representation of your life.
When you're not satisfied with your life, there's a dissonance between your face and your name. In nature, dissonance is not attractive or pretty. Your name being the pure symbol of you, and your face being a not so pure expression, people get mixed feelings.
But no matter what your name is, if you are satisfied with your life and express who you really are everyday, your face will express YOU. Nothing is more attractive than someone expressing their creative selves. Thats when there's a resonance between the name and the physique, the name already expressing you in pure form. Now people will find you attractive, no matter what your name may be.
But not everyone will run after you, even though you'll get a lot of positive attention, because there still has to be a match.
And that's where your "Important of Being Earnest" comes in, if I understood it correctly. Being satisfied with ones life, is the same as expressing ones happiness. And expressing ones happiness is being truly honest or truthful. The importance of being earnest is the importance of being true to one self, which is important to being attractive on all levels of being.
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Even stand-up comedians and evangelic preachers know that as well as the poetic rhythm and cadence of delivery that lull an audience into a state of semi-hypnosis, there are certain vocal sounds that resonate in the human brain as more funny, more exciting, more moving and/or convincing. You'll hear a comic mention from time to time that words with the consonant sound of the letter K get a bigger laugh than most others (at least in English). It's not an exact science yet, only because it hasn't been studied deeply enough to be codified, but it's very real and you can see it in practice every day. I'm sure there must be some wealthy MA Ad Agencies who've sunk a little money into research on this.
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I just remembered vaguely about the naming customs of some
North American indigenous peoples, but no more detail than they
choose a name when they come of age, usually an adjective and
a thing/animal. I am sure it tells who they are in a way. I once met
one whose name was Red Arrow , which implies, I suppose, being
a great warrior, since red also means blood or war.
As for mainstream culture certain names seem to stand out as
stronger than others. I never heard of anyone named KEVIN being
made fun of for example. I probably have a learned synaesthesia
about expected personality attributes in names just from school
but it would take a while to make a list, and I am not sure that it
would correlate well with others attempts to make such a list any way,
but might only offend people whose names were in my list if I made one,
especially because of the generalness and significance of the
attributes I associated with the names. So I'll leave only these
two names as examples.
I had forgotten about that article until I found this article on cracked. (Someone has posted some links from there in this forum)
Things Men Do To Get Laid That Science Says Turn Women Off
You may notice that the #1 thing that is listed is having the wrong name.
At first this sounds absolutely ridiculous. Is it possible that ordinary people can be so f***ing stupid that they make judgements based off a person name?
Then I remembered that this is ordinary people we are talking about, of course they can be that f***ing stupid.
Keep an open mind and think about it, is it possible that your subconscious is tuned to put excessive significance towards the name of a person?
I hate that such trivial things can hold any significance.
Although attraction for me is mostly a visual thing, because 1. I am male and 2. I cannot fully understand other things, that are deeper.
Actions themselves are more important to me than their intentions (which I cannot possibly know).
I like the joke they made about not believing anything a man with a furry top hat also believes.
What is even more ironic, is how someone before this made fun of these techniques only to be refuted by science.
This is why I hate people I do not know.
It is not much, but knowing these people will all be killed by a narcissistic psychopath named Michael makes me happy.
I really hate my name. I always have. when I was growing up no one else had it, except for a boy I met once, that spelled it like mine. Then there was a stupid movie that came out with my same name and when people met me they would bring it up, like I'd never heard that joke a million times. It's so bad that when i see someone with my name I automatically feel pity for them and wonder if they are cursed like I am. I hate loathe and despise it. (it's different from my screen name). I thought I was going to drop it and change it to my middle name and now I hate that one too for some reason. I hate my last name too, it's cursed with the drool of half-witted neanderthals that sprung up from the red clay dirt in georgia (US) and probably were really bad people who did really bad things. I want to be divested of all of it. I am thinking up a new name now, that I might like to use, and just shelve all of it and the sickness of my lineage along with it. So I wonder if I give out bad vibes about my name because I hate it so much.
Yeah I get the whole "Princess Fiona" Thing occasionally, but I like my name at the least.
Honestly, yes, I think you do.
I believe all names have their own beauty. But if you don't feel compatible with your name, you won't see the beauty and you will radiant uncomfortable feelings that other people pick up when they see your name. If you felt greatness for your name, people would be able to say anything negative about it. They would respect you and your name.
Maybe your parents had different intentions for you, than you have for you.
I have changed my last name and my ex-girlfriend changed here whole name, both first and last, because she was so dissatisfied with it, with what it represented to her; her life. She had thought about changing name for years, but didn't do it before a really good alternative came up. Something that she loved.
Change the name to something you are comfortable with and see your beauty both in your name and person

that is a cool post (above). I feel like my name is dead, honestly. I don't know any other way to describe it...but I've heard people say this and I've experienced it too, recently with one of my cats, when you miss someone who has passed but you don't know they are dead yet and you think of them and you feel this very deep and cold abyss that is instantaneous in your mind, it just happens, and you know that animal or person is dead. When I think of my name and when it is said in my mind that's how I feel about it...there is zero positivity about it at all, it's a dead thing, a past tense. My parents had whatever intentions for me but they completely f*cked them up letting me be around predators (and yes they could have controlled this and chose to look the other way so as not to trouble themselves) so they let these people kill my name and now I can't stand it. It's pretty common for people with a history like mine to change their name I think.
I would like to feel a positive vibe about my name. I thought about just going to my middle name but that is not enough.
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I want to know if Gina is a good name. I partially don't like it because it is half of my horrid full name (Georgina, which I hate because it is old-fashioned and I think it has an ugly spelling and sound), but I partially like it because it has quite Latin associations. I also like it because there is someone in Mickey Blue Eyes called Gina, and I like that film, so I am proud that my name is in it . It is also the name of one of Joey's sisters in Friends.
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