Dating Coworkers?

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After spending about a week away from it, yesterday I finally decided to log back into PoF and see what happens. Lo and behold, I found one of my coworkers on there! She's a woman I get along with really well. I even wanted to date her when we first met, but didn't bring it up because she already had a boyfriend. She likes a lot of the same geeky things I do, like video games, anime, superhero movies. And while she's definitely no supermodel (she's even said so herself), she's still pretty enough, you know? We haven't been talking as much lately since we got moved to different departments, but if she's dating again then I'd like to take a chance with her.

Only problem is, she's my coworker. She's not my boss or anything, and I'm not hers. We're pretty much equal, except that we work in different departments. But... she's still my coworker. Is there some kind of taboo about that? Something we could get fired for? Even if it's not illegal, is it even a good idea?

EDIT: And this is all assuming, of course, that she'd say yes to going on a date with me. Which she probably won't. But still, is it a good idea?

I don't think there's any rule regarding dating coworkers. Not that I'm aware of anyway. It might be different if one of you were a supervisor, but since you're not, that would not apply anyway.

As far as SHOULD you date a coworker? Well... I think you will get lots of answers about that. There are good things (like how many people marry people they meet at work) and then there are bad (like if you break up and it's not a good break up, you might have to see that person every day and it might be uncomfortable for you both).

How much do you know about her? Does she seem mentally stable? Does she seem like a fairly nice person?

Despite all the bad stories I would probably be wiling to give it a shot, if I were in your situation, as LONG as she seemed like a decent person overall.

I don't know what PoF is.

But, I don't see why you shouldn't try. Go for it!

As long as you work in different departments, and your work and hers don't overlap too much, I don't see much of a problem, really.

I've dated co-workers, even working in the same department. One turned out badly--the others okay.

PoF: Plenty of Fish, a dating site.

@OP: I wouldn't recommend dating co-workers, because it could negatively impact your professional life if things don't work out. In some companies, it's not even allowed.

My sister married a coworker. Be sensible about it. They have always worked on different teams/departments.

Obviously if she is interested.

If people don't ever date co-workers many people wouldn't have the time to meet people. It is not that unusual.

Check company policy.

The no co-worker rule is one of the most unintelligent rules I've ever heard. Even refusing to hire married couples--very stupid rule.

A lot of companies are ok with couples getting together at work. They won't fire you for it. But if one person leaves for their own reasons, they never get rehired.

I used to work at McDonald's, and pairing up was strictly verboten. It still happened, but it was always hush-hush.

Thanks for the advice, guys. But she's already decided she's not into me. So, never mind, I guess. :/

I'd go for it. There are a number of female co-workers I'd like to go out with if they all weren't already married.