Never been in a relationship & losing friends like a virus

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Disclaimer, I'm going to be going on a tangent because I have no idea about relationships.

These days I seem to be losing a lot of friends because of my mouth having no filter. I also seem to have a hard time dating and not being able to connect with women.

With everything going on (new car and parents babying me, me realizing after a year that I lost a good friend, and me trying to find a career with stability and something that I like, etc.).

I'm a loner like all the time. Out of the house all the time and go out almost every night just to get that "social hour" on my daily basis.

If you were in a same situation as listed above (^^^), should I worry about learning how to keep friends or learn how to form a relationship with a girl?

If it were me, I would try to figure out what it is that is driving people away from me.

You figure that out first and you'll find it easier to improve on your relationship status as well.

Those things sound connected to me. If you have trouble filtering what you say, it can hurt a girl's feelings and not just a friend's. And if you're struggling and unhappy with life, it's harder to focus either on friendships or a relationship. It's not a choice between the two things, really.

That sucks now that you put it in that perspective. But you are right though. These things are interconnected and I gotta learn how to filter. Most of the time in relationships, I always feel lost. I need ways to do things. Now that I have recently lost friends, I've resorted to casual relationships. There are some people I hang out with music-wise but I don't see them all too often. Once a week.

And for dealing with dating, I don't go on those much and I have been liking porn a lot lately.

Improving just one of those things could improve multiple areas of life, though.

ya it's been eating me up inside

What are some ways to improve on these things? Everytime I try and approach it, it leads to a lot of anxiety. I do want close people in my life, just twice a week or less because I want time to listen to music, DJ, and learn music production and look for a great job for loners that involve music.

Music everyday.