Do you have problems wiith relationships?

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Hello wp allthough most women seem to like me most of the time I am afraid to approach them and I don't know what to say but when I decide to approach a woman all women witch I approach are difficult and they tell excuses when I tell them to go out I don't know if I blame or the women. In the summer I try to approach a friend of my sisters who tell in my sister that she likes me and we go out some times but after summer she tells weird things in my sister that she try to make matchmaking and she don't want anyone etc. I don't understand women why they behave this way? I talk about NTs women I don't know if this apply aspie women. Is it better to find an aspie woman or NT? Do you have similar experience? aspie women how do you behave when a man approach you?

Sorry about my english I am greek

If a man approaches me my friends say I look like 'a deer in headlights' because I get so nervous.

The only problem I have with relationships is that I keep telling myself I don't need one but want one anyway.

Instead of approaching women for example in bars or clubs, do you meet women initially as a friend and hen gradually get to know her? Most of the guys I had strong feelings for were guys I worked with. Initially there was nothing between us, but over months and months of working together or socialising together, we got to know eachother, developed a connection, trust, and then eventually, a relationship. Trust is really, really important for women. It's common for women to reject men they don't know very well because we believe maybe they could hurt us, expect things we don't feel ready for because we don't know them... etc. Its much easier to get a positive reaction from a women when she feels no pressure or expectations, for example, when she thinks you just want friendship.

I think friendship is a really, really good way for relationships to start. Online dating may be helpful too. I met my boyfriend over the internet, we talked for 2 months before meeting and I already had feelings for him when we met. We then became friends for almost a year and finally began a relationship. My brother and sister also met their partners online. My sister is engaged and my boyfriend is married, so online dating worked for them! My brother's wife is even from a different country and my sister's fiance lived 8 hours away from her, but they ignored the distance and now live together very happily