difficulty to move on

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Most of my life I didn't had any interest in romantic relationships... I just didn't thought about it at all, loving someone or even physical contact seemed quite non relatable for me. Last year I kind of fell in love (I'm not even sure if I was in love really or I just liked the idea of being in love) and it felt so good because I felt quite normal and it was actually nice and helpful to have someone close. Turns out that the guy said he didn't loved me so it's obviously not working as a healthy relationship, but I'm still obsessed with him although I understand quite clearly it isn't going to happen anything and I don't even know why I would love him so much

I miss so much to not care about this stuff because it make me so tired and frustrated and I already have more important things to be frustrated about but it takes so much out of me because I felt like a possibility to be normal and I'm sad because I missed it

You didn't miss it, you reveled in it. There will be more opportunities to feel love again. It takes some time to get over. Just hang in there.

I understand. I've been there. Not sure what it is that makes this one flawed human so special, but they are for some reason and it's hard to let go.

Time does heal and you will meet other people who are special in their own way.

I don't have any words of wisdom. It was just something I had to get through. I stopped having contact with him in person or on social media and I find I don't miss him now.

Hormones.

There's no point holding on to a hope when someone tells you no. It's not good for you. It just lengthens the period of time you feel pain.

He's right. It doesn't work like that.

yesterday I decided to tell him I don't want to talk with him anymore and I even blocked him on facebook, he asked for it to be just temporary as he wants to be friend... I'm afraid I won't manage without him for too long but I'm really tired of being sad because of him.

We have been talking on daily basis for a bit more than a year, I never kept this amount of contact with anyone else. And often I end up sad and out of control because he mess so much with my emotions, I feel I'm too vulnerable. He used to try to avoid this, calm me down and everything... but it seems he got tired from it and I can't count on him anymore.

So I prefer to avoid any kind of contact now because I can't be too exposed to someone who see me falling apart and won't help.