Something girls do(or say) that doesn't make sense

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Being male(and autistic), I can relate to being "friend zoned". It's happened a few times to me, and when I persisted, I was treated like a stalker(it hurts and I never spoke to them again). Ladies, I understand that you don't want to tread on feelings(because some of you know how it feels), but why are you so delicate to us? Telling us what's wrong isn't being mean, it's being honest. The only thing you hurt is our pride, we'll recover. It's not a gun shot, it's a paper cut. A better analogy: let's say you bought Beats by Dr. Dre. You loved them and would definitely recommend them to someone else, but one day you went with Bose or JBL. Say they asked why you went with JBL or Bose, would you tell them the same thing you tell guys that you reject? Probably not. You would tell them what you liked and didn't like about Beats...and they would take your info and improve the product. Don't try to convince them you're not a mean person. The game is fixed. You're mean, no matter what you say or do. Besides, you telling them what they're doing wrong will just help them grow, so...yeah. Tomorrow's Valentine's Day, so this post would be appropriate, for the occasion.

*If this comes off as nasty, I apologize. I'm still kinda new at this.

Why do you feel it is the responsibility of others to tell you how to improve yourself?

Because sometimes the answer is "I prefered that but there was no logoal reason in behind it and I don't know myself". Sometimes you could be the perfect guy but the feeling just isnt there and then you feel bad because it truly isn't something about them in particular you just don't have feelings for them.

There isn't always a logical explanation and it's difficult trying to explain that you don't like someone that way just because. Also some guys don't accept that as a reason.

Personally, it's really hard for me to say to a guy why i don't like him. First reason is, don't want him to feel bad. it's hard for me to say "okay, you are a good guy, but i just don't feel anything." would you accept that?

All three of the reasons women give for letting men down lightly are valid.
It just sucks for aspies because we can handle the truth, and we'd like to work on things that turned women off, so we need to know what they are.

I don't think you'll get much superior feedback from men who dislike you. You just won't care as much; it's a people thing, more than a woman thing. If you find someone who gives you honest, caring feedback, make them your best friend.

Of course we'll get much better feedback, if the women will be honest. We're trying to figure women out. I don't give a s**t about a man's opinion of me - I'm not trying to get in a relationship with a man.

I doubt that. I now have a low opinion of you. See if you can ignore it.

Every woman has her own set of rules. Learning one set of rules won't help you figure out the next.

Crazy how women are unique individuals, just like regular people.

Rejection is an NT thing, and if you play things the NT way with dating and all the rest, then you need to learn to accept rejection. If you play it the ND way, rejection is never even an issue.