NTs have same issues

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My psychologists, families and friends told me lot of NTs they knew haven't had a relationship nor sex til later age. Most of them had once and didn't had anymore since their firsts.

Anyone knew about this?

My friend lost her virginity at 16 and then didnt have sex again till she was 23, is this similar to what you mean?

That's right....NT's don't bask in Paradise, either.

You got that right! Everyone has their struggles, some have it worse than others. We all have to do what we can to make the best of things, even at the worst of times. I didn't want to get out of bed today, but I made myself. And, I know a 52 year old vergin, and he is an NT by the way. No, it's not some religious thing either. So, yes, NT's have their struggles. I'd tell you mine, but it's depressing, and I don't want to depress anyone out here. I like trying to help you all as much as I can.

What makes it more interesting about this topic is a range of challenges and experiences by Googling this. I Googled words varies from '20s never had a relationship', 'late bloomer', 'late 20s virgin' and etc.

What did you find?

I find NTs have more social anxiety, struggling to communicate and self image issues. The ones who have good social skills but poor at communication skills. Lot of them are like that, being virgins in their late 20s and early 30s.

There are so many overlaps it makes it confusing. Which is why people are against self diagnosing because there are so many overlaps. Also as an aspie how do you know what part is the AS and what part is just called being human since NTs can have the same struggles too or is this what they mean by many people have ASD traits? Is this what they also mean by everybody's got problems?

Also I have seen NTs say in the ABDL community how they feel like a child stuck in an adult's body and they have to act like adults in the outside world and then be kids again at home but be an adult when they have to pay bills. Also I have noticed how some people are emotionally immature and they don't even have autism. Then there are also some who seem to have poor social skills because they also don't know how to interact or engage in small talk, etc.

My mom has told me I am doing better than some of my NT cousins. One of them rents a room in a home with his daughter and he works a low wage job and he is a single dad. Doesn't like like a good life but that is what he does to live. Also my other cousin lives in an apartment and has had to get rides to go grocery shopping and I heard she had her kids taken but no one knows the story. Her ex boyfriend got custody of them. Then there is my other cousin who still lives with her parents and she will be 40 this year and she works and pays the bills but she still lives with them.

It depends on how you want to define NT but I have another cousin who has ADD and Bipolar and my mom says I am also doing better than her. She has had many jobs and can't hold a relationship and she lives in her parents home while they are in Hawaii for half of the year. They have two homes now, here and Hawaii. I am not sure what my cousin is doing now.

Then there is my aunt who has issues and she gets very jealous and makes up symptoms to get attention and claims to be sick and has magically cured herself from cancer and she blows up at people and acts very dramatic and wants everything to be about her and be in the center of attention. She is a narcissist. Some think she might be Bipolar too because of her wild mood swings and she also has Munchausen's or is a hypochondriac.

A lot of times, this is by choice though.
But indeed, many NTs have issues similar to ours when it comes to dating and relationships, but rarely "all of them" in the same person, and also rarely to such a degree as is seen within the ASD community (not never, but rarely)

Bipolar share same diagnosis system as to ASD.

NTs are not bipolar, they are also Aspies like us but have different challenges. That why the system got rid of Asperger's to a high functioning Autism which is most acceptable term.

Lot of my friends are NTs, and they told me lot of people they knew were late bloomers just like many Aspie males are.

Is it? What proof do you have? Ecomatt91 at least did some research.

My fiances best mate has bipolar and struggles with romance (23 and never even held a girls hand). I never knew it was liked to aspie though

You cannot just google like that. It's an invalid method because not everybody that turns up in your results are NTs. Just like you need to evaluate if somebody is ASD or neurodiverse, you need to evaluate that somebody is NT. Being NT is not the default.

No, NTs are not aspies like us, I am afraid you are confused on that one. They would just have eliminated autism spectrum disorder altogether if everyone was aspies.

I should be a little clear on this. Under the ASD diagnosis system it have bipolar. It doesn't mean every NTs are aspies, even if they have bipolar for instance. They share similar challenges and obstacles as aspies does.

I know quite few NTs who aren't aspies doesn't had a relationship nor sex yet even in their 20s.