Aspie Partner sometimes does not reply to text messages

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I'd say there's a general consensus among myself & most people in my life that some people just don't feel like texting constantly.

I develop software on cell phones fot a living sometimes. There's no good reason to drag my work everywhere I go. For anyone who lives in a cave without Telecoms & Facebook, there are still many options for this, online & IRL, all of which are more direct. Texts are just overpriced emails anyway so why not video chat or just keep tabs on friends by speaking to them in person?

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^ You remind me a bit of me...apart from forums and a few aquaintances on Facebook, the only friends I want to make are close ones. I haven't got any currently. Most people don't seek that kind of friendship, it is life. It is not only an aspie thing. Things are usually one-sided, and nobody tells you straight that they're not interested.

Hi Angela I'm sorry you feel so alone it's a horrible feeling. I've just had a row with my Aspie friend . . . .. it's so difficult but probably my fault . . . . .although his way of ignoring me when I start getting needy doesn't help . . .. . I am ok tho as I have other friends. One of these made a very poignant point that I only allow myself to care for someone who is unable to care for me, because if my feeling were reciprocated it would get even more complicated.

I think he may speak sense my situation is somewhat unique. Anyway I just wanted to reach out and say I'm sorry you are feeling lonely. I am feeling sad right now too xx

I can't believe so.many here are like this.

I see many NT women talk of experiences where their aspie boyfriend basically never replies or texts them.

I agree nurraangela.

I miss my best friend after 2 weeks NC (no contact), can't imagine a month.

I'll admit, I can probably go longer than The average NT witjout talkong to a friend or loved one, but if I was in a relationship I'd want to have extended conversations online at least 2-4 times a week when not seeing each other in person.

Id want to see each other on person 2-4 times a week but once a week could do if we talk enough when apart.

I dislike actual text messaging though due to my phones UI (interface/confusing screen/etc.), and would have to date a girl with a Facebook to keep in touch with her that way.

Lots of people with aspergers or other disabilities also don't have social media or even a cell phone at all. F*cling annoying.

I meet someone I like, male friend or a cute girl, and they don't even have a Facebook.

There goes essentially any chance of a stronger friendship/seeing them outside of school/work/disability group/etc.

Angie turn on your PMs

Another thing is this, since I can't read people and I have poor self esteem it is very easy for me to think I am pestering someone or being a creep or to feel that I am the only one giving an effort or whatever infinite amount of negative thinking variables. I have no idea who I can trust, who is a friend, who is more than a friend, or whatever. If you're down too, I don't want to just dump that on someone. If somebody gives a small talk hey hows it going or whatever, it's hard to answer that question because the real answer is s**t but I don't want to upset someone and just being short with a generic response like "fine" basically is shutting the conversation down. I can understand it being upsetting not being able to read someone you're in some sort of relation with but that's how it is for me with everybody.

I hate using the phone much and I hate people expecting things of me. I hate feeling like I have to have text conversations when I really don't want to. Saying goodmorning and goodnight are just those kind of niceties/pointless small talk that I don't like. Once a day, in the middle of the day, my partner or I will ask for an update on their day. I am okay with this.

Why am I being mentioned here?

Just as an update seem to have sorted why my night time text messages stopped . . . Apparently I didn't answer on 2 separate occasions so he said it felt pointless. . . ..

In that case, he was right, I wouldn't re-text if I get ignored.