is it because am I ugly??

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I posted too many times here about the same guy that basically we had something but he didn't wanted a relationship because he didn't felt something ~else~ for me, although we had sex and he kept regular contact and we travelled to meet each other.

He said that the other girls he had something with they weren't much clear about their relationship but it seems that they loved them or at least loved them more than he loved me and I see photos of them they were all really pretty girls

It sounds too shallow to think that's the only difference between us but I can't help think about it, specially because I'm fat and ugly so maybe that was the reason? He was ashamed to be with me? Why would he want sex anyway? He introduced me to some friends although not as a girlfriend, but in some situations it was somewhat clear that we were in some kind of relationship.

I already asked about it to him but I think he was somewhat evasive saying like you're not pretty but you're cute but it isn't the point

That is your own perception,that you are fat and ugly.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder,what one sees,differs to another.

Grow some self esteem and love yourself first.

Fact is,this guy,just used you for sex.

Move on from this guy and don't dwell.

Your not. Period.

I have never dated but in the following I speak from what I know of others when I talk to.

I am not saying this applies to you. But sometimes people find others hard to deal with and it is unfortunate that sometimes us as aspies carry a level of baggage, socially and emotionally it can be hard therefore to find someone that accept us.

But I say look to your strengths. Your a smart, well traveled person. I think people would be really interested and like that in the future.

I hesitate on the 'ugly' part because we haven't met you & I agree with ElabR8, that's just one opinion anyway. Also some people more than others really are indifferent to good looks should they not coincide with the same beauty in thoughts & actions. It's tough for most people to place any kind of outward terms on a relationship. I don't worry much about my appearance but it does enter my mind, it's all about your own preferences. If you like talking to someone there's a better chance you'll like them in general.

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@Shahunshah

Thanks. I like when people point nice things about me because I crave validation. I used to believe I was smart but I'm not sure anymore, and traveling... I feel most people actually don't like it. At least people around me, they just think I'm rich brat or whatever kind of snob person (when in fact I traveled more because I got a scholarship to study abroad and I was in a cheap city, so I was able to save lots of money). Or maybe it's just me who can't make it seem interesting.

Anyway, I feel I'm just unlikable, I'm not sure why. I feel I put excessive fault on my look, but people simply don't get close to me and seem interested in the stuff I like/know. At some extent, I like myself, but I'm not sure how to share things with people in a way they enjoy, they just find me extremely boring.

@cberg

maybe that's my issue. I'm boring inside and outside. I just don't compensate my ugly looks with a great personality. This guy I talked about in this topic found me boring most of time. I think everyone does because I talk in a way which is difficult to understand because my thoughts are really loose and I don't know.

It would be naive to think that looks don't play a role on how much one may like you and be attracted to you.

My biggest physical flaw is my shortness, and it does certainly play a part - some girls kept telling me how taller the other guys they knew....etc. My height is almost always brought up (by THEM, not by me) on a date even though I avoid it.

So yeah, it can be the looks.