How can I ask girls out fast?

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Sorry, but I don't want to hear that I should be friends first. I'm heartbroken and I'm dead set on this, I just want to leave it at that for now. I need to know how to swoop a girl and move fast, even if I only had one or two conversations with her. I'll do anything it takes. I don't care about the risks involved. I also want to feel confident, and I want help fast.

You should try speed dating.

I don't really need speed dating. There is a new guy who came in and swooped away the girl of my dreams without having to talk to her for more than two group weeks.

good luck with that

Just go up and grab some kitty. If there's one thing I learned from the presidential election it's that women love it when you do that unsolicited.

Why are you trying to minimize my heartbreak?

What kind of responses are you expecting? Do you think there is a foolproof set of actions or words that will get you women guaranteed no matter what you're like as a person? If such a thing existed don't you think everyone would know about it and no-one would be single or unhappy?

If you can't get women fast then you probably just don't have the requirements (ie a sufficient combination of looks, charm, charisma, ease with talking to strangers etc), but focusing on unrealistic goals is simply going to add to your frustration. As is comparing yourself to the performance of others rather than relying on your own strengths and recognising your own weaknesses. Women can also sense desperation which isn't going to go in your favour either.

How can I build that stuff up, then? I just don't like it when another guy swoops in and takes my dream girl.

Did she know she was your dream girl? If not, that might be a problem. If she knew, but you weren't her dream guy, then there's not much to be done, is there? I don't think anyone here is in possession of the sort of mind control you're asking for.

As for feeling confident; have you tried dressing well and hitting the gym?

As for hitting the gym, what activities should I do? I'm forbidden from trying traditional free weights, and I still need a little guidance on the machines.

I hope this isn't meant as serious advice...more likely to get legal trouble or hit if you do that.

Barring free weights or sackwork, I'm partial to the rowing machine. Works legs, core and arms/chest all in one, whilst still being at least mostly a cardio excercise.. Not an optimum for any of them, but a good start.

Well did you ever talk to her or try to make a move?

I asked her a couple times to hang out before the other guy came into it, but she said things like her parents didn't have money, etc.

What about my diet? I find it hard to focus on what I'm eating in the moment and eating right. Even the task of keeping and updating a food diary itself is a challenge. Because: 1) I don't cook most things by myself, my parents usually cook for us and 2) I find it hard to motivate myself or remember to bring a food journal with me every time I eat.

I have twice in my life made something like an effort to lose weight, and both times I just used vague rules of thumb: one time I dropped pasta, potatoes and rice from my diet. I lost 25 pounds in three months or so. One other time I ate normally, but I didn't eat after 6 o'clock. I recall that working fairly well, too.